To My Blogging Friends

This to me, is the most important post I have ever written. I want to talk about a few things that have literally changed my outlook on blogging and my life.

The main thing in blogging that makes it so special are the people you meet along the way. You have friends in real life and then you have your blogging friends. Is there a difference to you? It’s much like real life in the blogosphere; you have your good friends and you have many acquaintances. I have made some blogging friends that I have true feelings for when it comes to friendship. These are the same feelings I have for people in my everyday life, for they are real people and many of us forget that. Many of us try so hard for big numbers and high hopes of making it big, but don’t let that corrupt your heart.

When you get to know someone while blogging, in some ways, you get to know them in a very intimate way. I have people in my real everyday life I’ve known for years that I don’t know as intimately as I would had I met them through blogging. I think it’s because of the general nature of writing. We write things that often, we may not tell our friends in everyday life. Blogging allows us to get to know someone in such detail, aside from what normal conversation entails.

I actually thought today, of quitting blogging altogether. Press a button and boom, your blog along with all the wonderful people gone in one second. I did not do that. That is a weak and selfish thing to do. My friends out in the blogosphere deserve much more than that.

Remember, these people out here are people. They have feelings and trust me, you can be hurt from these people just like in your everyday life.

Many of us turn to blogging because of loneliness, and I am no exception. If we all weren’t lonely in some way we probably wouldn’t be blogging. Some of us need blogging to fill in that void. If you are a shy person like me, then blogging is very healthy. Yes, I am very shy. Here in the blogosphere I may not seem shy, but that is part of the magic of blogging.

Addiction: Blogging is without a doubt very addictive, so much so it has effected my everyday life. Don’t forget about the people in your real life because of blogging. This is why I am writing this post.

This post is dedicated to the best friend I have here in the blogosphere, Mariuca. I have learned a lot about myself from her. She is a true friend and I mean that sincerely. She is as my new friend Mike said, “The nicest person on the internet.” I wish her the greatest that life has to offer.

I want to thank some friends here that mean a lot to me:

John M. Justice - My best friend in real life, the best friend I have ever had:)

Don Tomlinson - Another real life best friend. He doesn’t blog yet but has been there for me for over 25 years; he is also the best friend I have ever had:)

Mariuca - You will always be the most special blog friend I have ever had not to mention a friend in real life. You are a master writer and can do it all. You are the best.You have effected my whole life for the better and I look forward to being your friend forever
Adria - You are the most inspiring young woman I have ever met. A friend for life:)

WonderWoman - You are one of the best friends I’ve ever made here, a REAL friend:)

Randy - You and I became instant friends when we first met. You remind me of a young me! I consider you to be a real friend:)

Zubli - You are a great man and an inspiration to me. I truly look up to you as a role model for greatness.

Rachel - I haven’t heard from you in a while but I think the world of you. Everyone, go say hi to my wonderful friend Rachel and tell her Bobby sent you:)

Lili - One of the sweetest ladies on the web:) I like her very much:)

Amber: Amber, I think you are a beautiful gift to all bloggers and my dear friend:)

WhyPaisley - Girl, you are the best, most emotional writer in the blogosphere. I think you are fantastic:)

Sonadora - You have been a great friend since first meeting you. The only wine and cheese blog I read and it is absolutely the best:)

JoeZul - A great friend I haven’t seen in a while. Joe, you are a true friend:)

Willow - A friend for a longtime now! She is a fellow story writer who has much talent:)

Anastasia: Anastasia, you are a writing genius. Perhaps the greatest female writer I have ever known. You blow me away:)

Beaman: If ever there was a blogging prodigy, genius poet and master of the story, it is you!:)

Jean - Jean you are are such a sweet girl and wonderful person, I am truly honoured to know you:)

Emila - I met you through Marzie and I am so happy to have you as a friend. You are the most original artist I have ever known, simply superb!

Mike - You are a new friend and another I met through Marzie. I think you are one of the smartest and most talented bloggers ever, I’d like to see Gummy in the Sunday Comics:)

BrownBaron - A new friend! I think you also are one of the smartest bloggers I’ve seen yet.

Nihal - Another new friend I met through Marzie. You are a great guy with an impeccable blog, I am glad to be your friend!

HollyGL - A new friend that has been totally sweet and has a great blog:)

Polliwog - Paula is a new friend I like very much and she is also sweet:)

Seiche - A fellow martial artist and great blogger! My new friend:)

Euroyank - We became instant friends recently and his video collection is astounding, over 10,000:)

NickPhil - Another new friend! Nick has been very cool, I like him a lot:)

I have to stop here for now, though I am far from done on this list. I will be adding many more people over the next few days & if your name isn’t listed and I know you, don’t fret, It will be. This post took a lot out of me and I mean every word I say :smile:

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Tags: friendship, good friends

July 4, 2007 · Filed Under blogging

Comments

46 Responses to “To My Blogging Friends”

Mariuca on July 4th, 2007 10:49 am

Bobby, I am truly touched by your beautiful words. Know that you are always in my thoughts and I thank you for being such a wonderful person.
Revellian on July 4th, 2007 11:37 am

Mariuca: You are welcome, you are THE BEST
Jean on July 4th, 2007 2:50 pm

Bobby, *hugzzz* i am glad to know you too. It felt so good to be appreciated. :)) thanks.
i was just drafting my post on friendship yesterday night. And your post is just what i wanted to say. I truly agreed wt you. And I loved these phrase of yours “The main thing in blogging that makes it so special are the people you meet along the way. You have friends in real life and then you have your blogging friends.”
p/s: Don’t you ever press the delete button, ya!
Nihal on July 4th, 2007 2:55 pm

Bobby, I’m indeed glad to be in your circle of friends. I’m still new to all this BUT with friends like you, I feel so much at home. Thank you, once again
Revellian on July 4th, 2007 2:57 pm

Jean: Thank you so much:) Don’t worry, I will never delete my blog. I just had a lot of things to think about. Look forward to your post
Revellian on July 4th, 2007 4:22 pm

Nihal: You are more than welcome, I am proud to be your friend
Dani on July 4th, 2007 9:13 pm

Hi Bobby! First of all, thank you for commenting on my blog the other day..
I really like your quote : Remember, these people out here are people. They have feelings and trust me, you can be hurt from these people just like in your everyday life.
and
Many of us turn to blogging because of loneliness, and I am no exception. If we all weren?t lonely in some way we probably wouldn?t be blogging.
That’s the main reason I’m blogging..
Thank you for the links, I will definitely visit them sometimes.. see you around
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 12:16 am

Dani: You are very welcome! Thank you for visiting, I love to see new commenters
Adria on July 5th, 2007 1:00 am

Bobby, I’m so glad that you didn’t quit blogging. My breath caught when I read that part. Did you have a hard day?
You were the first to reach out to me when I joined MyBlogLog. I felt like a tiny dot in a huge mob there, and you gently took my hand and made me feel safe. Then you did it again at BlogCatalog (which I only joined because you lit the way for me).

Your blogs are places I feel safe and welcome, and that’s because of your caring… and your ceaseless support and encouragement.

Thank you, Bobby.
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 1:44 am

Adria: Yesterday was very hard for me and I really did almost quit. I did not and I am here stronger than ever before. What you have said is one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me - THANK YOU
Adria on July 5th, 2007 2:00 am

Bobby, I’m glad that yesterday is behind you, and that you’re still here, still strong.

You had me worried… and that’s as it should be. That’s what friends do on the “hard” days.

*hug*
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 3:05 am

Adria: With friends like you it would be impossible to quit! Thank you for making me so special
Polliwog on July 5th, 2007 3:28 am

What a beautiful tribute to your friends Bobby!

I was thinking along these lines today too, it was a sad day for me and good stuff kept coming at me all day … most from my new friends in the blog world. I feel very blessed right now. It sounds like you do too.
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 4:25 am

Polliwog: Thank you! I wasn’t done nor am I even close to all to be on this list. I added you because you have been a new great friend
Brown Baron on July 5th, 2007 6:26 am

It’s actually breathtaking to think that we could find real friends through blogging without having to meet face to face.

Bobby,
Next time you have a bad day, draw strength from knowing that we are your friends and that we will back you up whenever you need it.
It has been an honor and a privilege to call you friend. Good to see you’re sticking around.
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 6:31 am

BrownBaron: Today is not getting easier, it’s getting harder:(
Thank you for being there, it means more than you will ever know
Nick Phillips on July 5th, 2007 9:03 am

Hey Bobby, thanx for the mention. You’re a pretty cool guy yourself
Sonadora on July 5th, 2007 10:51 am

Thank you Bobby. I always find your blog so thought provoking and interesting, it’s a pleasure to come visit and see what your newest piece will bring.
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 12:49 pm

Nick: Thanks! It’s always good to see you here Sonadora: You have been a faithful reader for quite a while now! It means the world to me
Seiche on July 5th, 2007 1:15 pm

Thanks Bobby. I’ve got to say, I am thouroughly pleased that I stumbled onto your blog completely by accident. And by default have met some really talented and just great people overall.
Random Magus on July 5th, 2007 2:47 pm

… hey Bobby I am so genuinely genuinely happy to have met you and your blog… if i were to describe you like you have all of us I’d say

Booby: ” an endearing, compassionate and brave blogger who lays bare his soul with searing courage and love and acceptance… a true gem… that I’m proud to have met and befriended’
Randy Maness on July 5th, 2007 3:11 pm

Wow, Bobby.
I don’t even know what the blogging world would be like without Bobby. It would be a gray desolate place with blue meanies running about. I am grateful for your comment on me. Just know that I really look up to you. I hope that you have an excellent day! May good fortune and awesome wonders of the world come to you in unexpected ways. (I have ways wanted to sound like a prophet)
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 3:11 pm

Seiche: Thanks! Your blog is great, with some of the best articles I’ve seen on ju jitsu ever:)

Amber: You…babygirl, you have made me SMILE! Thank you Amber
kevin on July 5th, 2007 3:18 pm

Hi,

A quick hello to let you know that Fuelmyblog has had some surgery done and lots of changes have happened.
Your current voting widget is not valid, to fix this all you need to do is login to your account with Fuel and follow the link for widgets. All the widgets displayed on that page have the code matching your blog and are ready to copy and paste.

Happy blogging!
Revellian on July 5th, 2007 3:29 pm

Randy: I remember when I met you, we faved each other on technorati, reviewed eachothers blogs, joined eachothers communities on bloglog an blog catalogue - all at the same time without even talking about it!!! That was one cool-ass day I’ll never forget:)
Kevin: I have written at least 25 comments on other peoples posts telling them their widget was invalid! I thank you for telling me about mine:)
HollyGL on July 5th, 2007 6:21 pm

Thanks so much, Bobby. The feeling is mutual!
~willow~ on July 5th, 2007 8:57 pm

Hi Bobby,

You’ve been awarded the Thinking Blogger Award. Again [you have gotten it before, right?]. This time by me Congrats!

And I suppose it’s synchronicity or something, because, well, thanks for the kind words and shout-out always nice to know I’m making an impact on someone, especially a good impact, LoL!
btw - whatever it is that had you contemplating deleting this blog, I hope you’ve resolved it! Of course, if you do decide to quit the blogosphere it would be a huge loss but it would be your decision to make, and yours alone. Glad you decided to stay!!
cheers,
~willow~
paisley on July 5th, 2007 11:47 pm

bobby,,,
you are such a community spirit type individual… i like that energy in you,, you are forever bringing us together, and giving credit where credit is due… ever think of jumping into politics??????

thanks for the honorable mention……
Adria on July 6th, 2007 1:08 am

Bobby, your comment on my LJ made my day.
It’s heartwarming to see your friends rallying around you here. See how loved you are?
Revellian on July 6th, 2007 3:28 am

Willow: Thank you, Another Thinking Blogger award? May I do that on my WGM blog? I havent received any awards on it yet. Thanks for being my friend
Paisley: I am? I never thought that before, maybe people see me much differently than I see myself. Politics? LOL! I am not very political. I do like speaking in front of large crowds though. I see myself doing something big, but not for myself, for the people. Thank you Paisley - there you go making me think and throwing me off guard again! You are too good at it
Adria: Three comments from you on one post! I am speechless. You have really helped me feel so much better Thank you
Mariuca on July 6th, 2007 4:32 am

Cheer up Bobby! Here’s a little Mariuca sunshine just for you Hang in there and hopefully whatever you’re going through right now will pass, and you’ll be back to ur usual happy & cheerful self again. HUG!
Revellian on July 6th, 2007 5:00 am

Mariuca: Thank you Marzie A nice hug from you definetly makes me cheerful and very happy :razz:
Wonder Woman on July 6th, 2007 7:25 am

Lunch today brought thoughts of friendships and the meaning of having true friends- and then I read this post. Someone I know believes that anyone met online is only an associate, while only those met in “real life” can be friends.
For me, a friend is not defined by those things. A true friend is one that supports you, and helps you, and is there for you- sometimes even silently in the background. There’s never doubt that a true friend cares. You actively show that you care. Thank you for being a wonderful and true friend.
Revellian on July 6th, 2007 7:42 am

Wonder Woman: Exactly! If I call you a friend, then you really are a friend Thanks for the kind words, I have been smiling all day because of you and all my friends! You are great
joezul on July 6th, 2007 12:28 pm

Bobby,

Today is the first day I’ve been online since a month ago. The first blog I came to is here, and reading the entry I almost choke at first.

I really miss a lot during my MIA. Sorry for being out of touch for so long.

“Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods. - Aristotle”

I really am proud to be your friend.
Revellian on July 6th, 2007 1:44 pm

Joezul: WELCOME BACK! I remember when I first met you. You are the first friend I met through Marzie (that girl brings more people together than anyone on the entire internet). We went on that Alexa train ride together. Joe, sometimes we need time, we need a break from it all. I just had one of my worst weeks ever and I know you have had something not so good going on with you. I am your friend, and I’m not talking about just a blog friend, but a real friend. It is great to hear from you
Beaman on July 7th, 2007 10:56 am

Thank you for the very kind mention! My British upper lip is quivering. I agree thoroughly with the sentiments in your post, very much so.
Revellian on July 7th, 2007 11:37 am

A quivering upper lip? My Father told me when I was five that women love a quivering lip! I meant what I said. Thanks Beaman
Lonely in Blogoshere.. on July 8th, 2007 11:10 pm

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emila yusof on July 9th, 2007 3:06 am

Hi Bobby, thank you for being my friend too!
Revellian on July 9th, 2007 5:24 am

Awwww, thanks Emilia! It is wonderful to have a friend like you
Rachel on July 10th, 2007 6:35 am

Hey, sorry I didn’t catch this blog until today! I’ve been so busy with work and looking for another job that I haven’t updated much since I’ve been back, and I haven’t made the rounds on everyone’s blogs. I feel so horrible about that. Thank you so much for the nice message though! I do feel the same way!
Oh, and I am still alive in case you were wondering. Hehe.
Revellian on July 10th, 2007 7:49 am

Hi Rachel! Glad you’re back:) I missed you and will stop by soon
Jean on August 19th, 2007 9:15 am

Bobby! thanks for reminding me of this post! it still hv the magic to bring a smile to my face when i read it. love it lots!
Revellian on August 19th, 2007 10:57 am

Jean: You’re welcome! As long as I have some magic
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