Bobby Defends Mariuca
Another blogger because of a recent post and a comment left on my site has prompted me to explain a few things. Dave Lucas said the following on a recent post entitled Ethical blogging:
{”Because there are certain people who are not really blogging: they think they’re in a ‘popularity contest.’ I think it started with MySpace. The race to add “friends” and more “friends” has spread to bloggers who crave links, hits and “recognition.”}
That is true of a lot of viral practitioners, of course the same is true of any one trying to be popular or make money, etc. Money means nothing to me and popularity, I honestly never think about it. The foundation of links I’m building are with mostly people who havee none at all. Very few bloggers with high authority share anything with the newbies and personal bloggers. Personally, I love to teach new bloggers how everything works, answer questions, and try my best to help them see the positive virtue in being a social-network member. I don’t judge what they write or say he’s not a real blogger or she needs to be on my space. I can write anything from stories, essays, opinion, philosophy in many different styles and I have done a lot of it. Right now I’m testing things and for reasons other than “popularity”.
The people I viral network with, I know them. I have made a lot of good friends through it. And I could care less if technorati dumps it or bans me from the web. I’m here for the challenge, for friends and the viral environment is part of it right now.
Dave said this about my good friend Marzie:
{”I came across Marzie after joining MyBlogLog. She’s a nice girl, who managed to blowout Technorati. She’s made plenty of cyber-friends, myself included. She’s racked up hits and links and been favourited… but, for what? Does anyone really care about what she writes? She’s made friends, and that’s good. She’s highly ranked in Technorati, bit so-whattie? July 10-16 there wasn’t a single new post on her blog”}
Well, we love her and think she’s great. Her blog is my favourite and she is my favourite person on line. She is beautiful and sweet:)
Dave, no matter how you slice it - that is just uncalled for and rude. Marzie is a professional writer who is having fun. Yes, you’re right, she doesn’t follow a schedule of when she posts. I remember one two week stretch of no post, her rating still went up and up! People still commented daily and still read today. The reason her and her blog are popular is because she is the friendliest, sweetest and caring person on the web! People love her! So why on Earth are you picking on her? Her technorati authority a “big so-whattie?” I hate to tell you this but she really doesn’t even care about her authority. She is just a great friend who isn’t concerned of her’s or anyone else’s ratings. As far as her trying to be popular - that is so ridiculous. She’s actually shy and isn’t trying at all to even be competitive. She helps anyone who asks her and is just the one person on this Earth who is so far removed from any of your points, it is. . .ok, I was mad but now this is funny.
I hope you understand we’re a lot different than you think. She is my friend and I would never judge her blog. Maybe you’ll change your mind one day:smile:
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While I’m not going to place obtrusive and garish graphics all over my blog in obvious places and knock myself out to get more hits and more “friends” I realized as soon as I started that unless I was writing for only myself and didn’t want feedback or anyone else to read what I was writing, that I had to promote myself, my writing and my blog. One of the first things I did as soon as I finished writing my first post was to seek out bloggers who were writing about similar experiences and comment on their blogs and email them to let them know I was writing about the same kinds of things. I also joined a number of blog promotion communities, such as Blog Explosion, Blog Catalog, Fuel My Blog, Technorati, etc. This was just survival. I actually wanted readers and input on my writing. Also, my aim is to promote my writing to further my writing career, but to avoid doing so in a manner that I feel cheapens my blog’s appearance, integrity, or detracts from my writing in any way. When it comes down to it, we set our own limits on these things. I am VERY happy with letting people who discover my blog help to promote it (much like you have done). I am not that familiar with Marzie, but what I’ve read of her blog seems fine and I don’t think she’s “selling out” or anything like that.
What it comes down to in the end is what the blog’s author is comfortable with. If you don’t like how someone promotes their blog, tell them in a private email, or stop reading.
That’s just my $0.02. I’m sure Dave probably had what he thought was a valid and justifiable reason to make those comments, but to question, or even decide for himself whether anyone cares about what someone else is writing is a bit presumptious in my opinion. Oh well, as someone who has had my own share of negative comments made about me by others, to others, I’m not comfortable watching people treat each other that way.
I don’t know, maybe it’s because I have a MySpace.
Wolfgang: I am a writer also but I have other things in mind also as far as blogging is concerned. I study every aspect of blogging the good the bad and the risky. I see myself doing something where I am promoting or discovering other writers or something similar. Everybody does their own thing, but the only way I will judge someone is if they did something bad or evil. I have friends from every blogging background on line and each does what they want to. I like people and I am not here to say anything bad about anyone. My dad told me growing up, if you don’t have something good to say then don’t talk, LOL! You’re a great writer that surely deserves a career in it. I hope I can help a little
hey bobby! this is one of your greatest post. What you’ve written is totally true (unlike others!). I agreed with you!!! Marzie hv been the sweetest person online. She’s one of the many friends online that have made my blogging such a joyful experience. Thank you for writting this up. I gotta say you’re the best!!
Hi Jean! I had to. I would have done the same thing for you or any of my friends. If I had to translate foreign text books into other languages and write the nightmare jobs Marzie sometimes gets when working, I wouldn’t even have a blog. I had to put off my new post (which is tech, but it’s getting better) because when I read Dave’s comment I was a little irritated. I just felt for the 1st time ever while blogging that I had to do something like this. Thank you Jean, you are a great friend
While over my technorati favorites, I had the chance to view this post and since it got my hair up, I had to comment.
I’m with you Bobby, the comment from ‘Dave’ regarding Marzie wasn’t called for.
I personally don’t know Marzie, but she doesn’t deserve to be attacked like that.
Obviously she’s loved for reasons other than her blog. Do I smell a bit of jealousy Dave?
Everyone has their own reasons to blog and shouldn’t be criticized for attempting to do something positive.
I also have to defend myspace. I learned a lot from myspace: html, posting, networking, but most importantly I have had the chance to meet some of the most talented, friendliest and real people. Some who have become very important to me. That is the same way I feel about the people here at mybloglog. I love the interaction between us and am grateful for the learning experience I am taking with me.
What you put into something is what you take from it.
Obviously Dave is showing somewhat of the dark side….maybe he had a bad day? Maybe Marzie is not able to post on a regular basis, maybe that week he mentions, life threw her a curve that she needed to take care of, maybe there’s something happening behind the scenes he doesn’t know…does anyone ever ‘think’ before they speak? Maybe Dave’s post is for attention toward himself…hmmmm
One more thing I’d like to say is that I didn’t comment for the ‘link’, I commented because the attack on someone wasn’t necessary…
Sorry for the long comment Bobby….
<p>Andrea: Thank you for the thoughtful comment. I know you didn’t comment for a link, I have never offered like that and if someone demanded theirs I wouldn’t give them a link! I grew up being mad and negativity all around. Negativity is part of all our lives. I live positively now, and I learned how to be positive through conscious practice. I learned long ago to never say something about someone for no reason. If I saw someone with a terrible blog but they were personable and nice - I could say you are no writer, quit find your talent elsewhere. It’s not that bad of a thing to say but it could hurt someone and you not know it. You just don’t know anything thats why you should be nice. I would tell that person with a terrible blog something positive! Marzie’s blog has everything. She could write a deep meaningful blog or a great romance blog but she writes for a living. Her blog is her playground especially right now. One thing I learned from her is how to comment. She could write a blog with nothing but comments and it would be packed with tons of them. Thanks Andrea, I love your long comment, it was meaningful. Thank you
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I don’t know Marzie very well yet, but I can tell from the way you talk about her that she is a very wonderful woman. I am so sorry that she was spoken about in such a way in that blog post you reference. I think there are bloggers out there that do the things that Dave speaks of, but I’d never characterize Marzie as one of them! Wow.
Here’s some big love and a few hugs for her.
Paula: Thank you. When someone is striving for popularity and looking for their next link or suffering from link power withdrawals LOL, they certainly wouldn’t act like Marzie. He made it sound like rabid junkies looking for a power hit to rock stardom. Oh well, I do think you are so nice for saying what you did and I know someone who will really like it. Have a great night
Dave, people do have other things to do besides sitting by the computer all day long postings new topics or articles every single minute, you know! Besides, correct me if I’m wrong but I didn’t realize there were any hard and fast rules that you have to post regularly?
‘Does anyone really care about what she writes?’
So what if people don’t read what she writes, her blogging buddies, which includes me and a million others do. And judging by the number of comments she receives on just about any kind of posting that she’s done, I’d say that’s a good indication that people do read her stuff (in case you didn’t notice that!)
One thing you would notice about her (if you had been paying any attention at all) is that she takes the trouble to reply to each and every person who leaves her a comment and I don’t think that she’s out to win any popularity contest (if there was she’d get my vote for sure). That’s what I would call being friendly and thoughtful, not someone seeking fame and fortune.
I’m totally appalled by that little paragraph I read in Bobby’s post about Marzie. but then again I can’t judge you for it, cos it’s a free world and you can say whatever you like about someone but we know better and we really don’t have to listen to you do, we?
Marzie, keep up the good work. Me and the rest of us out there are with you all the way!!
And a good day to you too Bobby
<p>Nick: Yes, I agree! When I first started blogging I didn’t know how to comment and was a little apprehensive. Then one day I met Marzie on My blog log, she left me a comment! A few days later because she caught my attention I went to say hi. I figured she’d never talk to me again but she did, the same day. After that I got schooled in commenting by her and I started commenting too. I always try to treat everyone just like she does. It works and it makes you feel good and I am happy I learned from the best. She has had an influence on all of us! Also, if you’re not a pro blogger with clients and appointments, then it doesn’t matter, it’s your blog. You don’t even need a blog if you go leave comments everywhere, everybodys blog is your blog! Thanks Nick! I wrote a reply to this earlier but my pc crashed and I lost it, so I am writing a 2nd because I cannot leave anyone unaccounted for. Have a great day
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One GREAT post that you have written & I understood every SINGLE word…. LOL
Marzie is one great friend I know after joining mbl. I still rem the time when I wrote her a msg saying that I’m glad to have stumpled across her perfume blog cos it reminded me that I have a collection of perfume left unattended for years. She replied instantly, she is eager to see my collection & our friendship blossom from then on. She is one of my best online buddy. My blogging journey would not have gone so far if not for her to brighten up my days.
So Marzie, don’t get upset over something which we all know that it is untrue. HUGssss
Janice: You and Jean together have made Marzie’s life so much better! She loves you guys & I happen to be quite fond of both of you my self! Friends and family are the most important
Have a great day Janice, and Thank you 
Hi Bobby! Marzie is my best friend, online and offline. I’ve known her for more than 7 years! She is not the type of person who seeks popularity. Like you said she is a shy person. She never disappoint anybody and far from talking bad things about people. She becomes popular because she’s friendly and joined in all the viral things when people invited her. So, if she is popular it’s not because she chose it, it is because she deserves it!
Emila: You are so right! When I first met her I remember her talking about you and how good of friends you are, and I am very happy I got to be friends with you. Marzie somehow, brings people together. That’s all there is to it. And good people too might I add. Thanks Emila, it’s a pleasure knowing you
Bobby, you’ve hit the nail right on the head! Marzie has been nothing but genuinely friendly and sweet from the first time I’ve known her! People read her blogs because of the way she writes and who she is! And if anyone doesn’t like it then just don’t read it! Don’t make downright uncalled for statements about people you think you know even if you are allowed your opinion! That’s my opinion!
<p><p>Well Adrian, it’s just amazing to me that of all the people on the web he chose Marzie. I am, well I don’t even know. I know there is a reason for doing this. Marzie is also very sensitive, thats one of the things thats gives her a unique charm unlike anyone I have ever known. You and I and all of her friends are one lucky group of people who get to know this wonderful, sweet soul. Thanks Adrian, I think you are a great person too
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You don’t have to link to me Bobby for replying to this post. That’s not why I’m here. I just received a message from Marzie about this Dave person and she let me know about your post, so I of course had to come over and see what has upset the sweetest person on the internet so much
I’ve never met this Dave guy and clearly after reading his comment about Marzie, I have no interest in doing so. What kind of tool befriends someone, gains their trust and then turns around and writes crap like that? Maybe he just craves a little attention, who knows?
At any rate I’m not going to sit here and blather on about someone I don’t even know or care to. I’d rather talk about Marzie. She’s one of the most wonderful people I’ve had the pleasure to get to know. She has a way of cheering you up even on your worst days. She doesn’t do that because she’s trying to be popular, she does so because that’s just the way she is. So what if she doesn’t blog on a regular basis? Some people have lives and other things they need to tend to. Blogging isn’t everything.
You’re a good guy, Bobby for defending her. Of course I knew you were before this
Mike, I know exactly what you mean. I wasn’t really going to give links out, I did that for Dave. No matter how it’s done top 10k is top 10k. I don’t think either of us has ever met a person, ever - that deserved to be there more than Marzie. I do have to say that this session of replies for me has been very moving. Thank you Mike for commenting because I know you care about her very much. You are a good guy too. Actually, every guy and girl I have met through Marzie are all good people. It’s a beautiful thing, hard to put in words but we all are lucky to have her. Thanks Mike, for your heartfelt words
This is a situation whereby there is lessons to be learned by each of us. We are in this bloggosphere, and thus far blogging has been opening new found freedom, beyond the curbs of mainstream mass media mostly owned by the potentate. This freedom actually enables us to move forward onto the next level of blogging excitements. I notice each blogger has her or his intention, purpose, commitment, responsibility to blogging. When there are similarities or differences, therefore mutual respect is in order. Going against this order shall entrap the goer within the outcome of her or his action. Thus wise is when we do not witness an individual who start to define for another blogger or other bloggers, a standard of blogging which is her or his own. Let us suppose an individual set up a blog and title it - the right corner of my grandfather’s front tooth - and that is all the individual posts, and the individual posts without time-bound; for example twice a month or 10 times a day. What rights do we have to dictate this individual on blogging definitively? What more saying or penning words not proper that inflict hurt to others. So what gain can ever be retain? Actually the individual is free to blogging at her or his own blog in accordance to his wishes and style. Yes, even on that particular one, tooth. So blogging first to her or his own satisfaction, then when so choose she or he can share with others who prefers to. Of course the choice to visit, read, place a comment, and more are ours. Should we feel otherwise, what wisdom is to provoke or influence others to avoid the blogger, the blog, and the blogging. So please enjoy the freedom here, when other space and places only allow free or free doom. May all concern here truly value peace and harmony always. I love you all.
Zubli: A very thought provoking comment. I believe we have all learned a great deal from this situation and I in some ways regret I had to write this article, but I am glad I did. Most people have all said or written things about others in a negative light. I believe in the end this will be a positive thing. On another note, as a blogger I do not live by a strict schedule of when I post. Sure, I know that consistency is important but this is not what I do for a living - yet. If I’m friends with a blogger, I will be their friend even if they delete their blog (I almost did).
We all offer something different. I read some blogs because they’re deeply moving. Some are happy blogs, some just make you feel good. I read blogs I don’t even like to learn things unavailable anywhere else. The point is that we all live here together and we should treat each other with respect and compassion.
That was such an unwise and unnecessary move on Dave’s part to come all out at sweet ol’ Marzie. tsk tsk tsk. I guess some people get some sort of a high or kick when they make rude comments about nice people, especially if it means back-stabbing a former friend. It could even be jealousy, who knows. I’ve seen all sort of crazy criticisms in the blogoshpere till now. Some criticize a particular post, and others criticize the pictures in the post. But this is the first time I’m coming across someone criticizing a popularity!!!!
It’s quite similar to the Presidential election
When the opponent you don’t like is voted to power, you end up criticizing that person, wondering why the others voted for that candidate and not you. Instead of trying to find out what’s wrong with you, you end up thinking something is wrong with the voters intellect. Simple as that. Except, it is much more personal in this case.
To some people, popularity of a blog may be solely on the number of content. But to some others, popularity is also about how sweet and kind the person is. So what if she doesn’t make a new post every day? During your school days, try to remember who your popular classmates were. They weren’t just people who scored the highest marks during tests, no sir! The popular ones were people great in people-skills, someone always ready to help out others or listen to their problems, someone who genuinely means it when she compliments you, someone who has great charm, honesty, integrity, etc etc etc. That is what makes someone popular, and definitely not on whether she updates her blog everyday or not.
Frankly speaking, I don’t care less if Marzie is a technorati 10K blogger or a 1000K blogger. The fact that she always brings a smile upon my face puts her among my elite favorite bloggers rank, all ranked #1 to me. Period.
Ps. Bobby, the viral-link part may be a bit out of place here
Because people will turn out in huge volumes just to support Marzie, regardless of whether there is a viral-linking or not. Hence by offering a viral-link, you are not only making this sound as if some people are just commenting for viral-link’s sake, but also giving more ammunition to Dave who may probably say other bloggers have come forward to defend Marzie just to be viral-linked! We don’t want that, do we? 
Sandman: I’m just hearing your story and I can definetly see where you’re coming from. If someone wrote something about me it would have to be really bad to get my attention. But Marzie is a different story. She’s my very close friend and I do care about her a lot. That’s why I wrote this, for her. I know what you mean about bringing a smile to your face as I smile every time I hear from her. I say leave the really nice girls alone and treat them like they should be treated - with respect and a friendly attitude. The quote about adding a viral link was never meant to be taken seriously. I would never pay my commenter’s to comment. But it shows how truly meaningless it is as no one would want it and would never give it. All of (or most of) us viral network. I want people to know that me and all the friends I do this with is harmless and people still look down on it. Not all viral networkers are the same. I do it, but I have a sense of values and integrity when participating and have fun. Some of the best writers are right here commenting on this blog, including you Sandman. Without paying for links or being managed professionally, there is only one proven method for getting to a high level where talent may be rewarded - viral marketing.
I thank you sincerely for writing here and I want to see your book when you are done (you need a book)! Have a great week
Mike: Yes there are a lot of caring people! If I want criticism I’ll try out for American Idol. But here in the friendly blog neighbourhood, we like nice and friendly neighbours
Revellian, I agree with you and I really like how passionate you are about what you do. I really appreciate that. Let me tell, I follow your blogs since two weeks and you are becoming my favourite blogger.
Francesco
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Francesco: Thank you very much! That means a lot to me. It’s been great meeting you and you should go visit all the great people who have commented here. You will not be disappointed. I see you soon
Hi bobby, to hear that someone had descriminated on Maurica’s writing sounds really disheartening.
BUT from my point of view, it is the person’s way to express His/Her opinions and thoughts. So let it be. Let’s practise a freedom of speech. That is why we are into blogging.
Let us look at a certain angle, take a step back and see the bigger picture. Despite the criticism made, it was justifiable for all, in a sense that we can improve in our article writings.
Without critiques in our daily life, we cannot improve on ourselves and i am sure i have raising hands supporting my statement.
Sensitivity is not the question here but in order to take you to a higher level to be a better person, you need to be open to constructive critisms. No matter how hard it is, we have to swallow it. As the saying goes, no pain no gain.
Personally, i thought Marzie is both helpful and friendly in person which is why i wrote about her on my site. Her contents are uniquely interesting. The possible reason why she did not update her post is because she has been busy helping bloggers who are new to the blogging world. One of the instances and experience i had with her is when she took her time and effort to assist us in our site to increase technorati ratings.
To Marzie who is reading this, we are always behind you and it is our pleasure to meet such a blogger who is generous in sharing her knowledge. As for Bobby, we share the same sentiments in defending Maurica.
Thank you.
Have a nice day
PS: Marzie, keep the spirit alive.
” For everyone person who dislikes you there are hundreds other people who likes you”
The NAFASG TEAM
Nafa: Thank you. I hear everything you are saying and we all need to be able to take criticism. I didn’t see it as criticism though. Perhaps I am taking sides with Marzie but I can’t help that. I just don’t like it if she has her feelings hurt and I am protective of her. I have always been that way with women and it is who I am. I’d take up for her anytime, she is my friend:) You are my new friend and it means a lot that you commented here. Thanks Nafa, I’ll come visit soon
<p>I’m shocked beyond speech. i just came online, and on top of my inbox is this gnat trashing my wonderful and sweet Marzie. Just who the hell does this think he is. Come on, he’s only at PR4 and yet he talks like he’s the end all and be all authority in blogging.</p>
<p>FYI Dave, if you’re reading this, Marzie is the nicest and most wonderful person ever that I’ve known. I’m very new in the blogosphere, and yet she has welcome me with open arm and without any reservation. That is what a friend does, and she is definitely the best friend that anybody could hope for. It’s very shameful the way that you befriended her and then suddenly stabbed her in the back. I Wonder, if you’re like this in the blogosphere, then I shudder to think wonder what you’re really like in the real world. Shame on you! :(</p>
<p>Bobby, You’re definitely one of her true friend for defending Marzie like that. I apologize if my word up there seems harsh, but Dave totally pissed me off. Thanks for hearing me out.</p>
Joezul: Thanks Joe! You are right, and BTW that was a beautiful poem you wrote. Very, very beautiful:smile:
Bobby, I have NOTHING against Marzie! There is a link to her blog in my blogroll, and that link will stay there! I simply question the value of racking up points on one system or another (the “popularity contest” angle that may work better on MySpace or Facebook) as opposed to actually welcoming real readers interested in what you have to say back to your blog day after day.
What I DO find irritating is that there are so-called “A-List” blogs that rack up thousands of hits per day, but don’t hold a candle to blogs like Marzie’s. Her posts are well-written and I enjoy reading them.
In the past, bloggers who have used software and other methods to ratchet their positions up on services have suddenly found themselves banned from those services. A few years ago both Technorati and Blogspot targeted and banned certain blogs that were using what is now being termed “viral marketing.”
Remember too, we’re all involved in a public forum, so there are times we will agree to disagree. That doesn’t mean we can’t be friends!
Dave Lucas: Dave, it just didn’t sound positive at all and whether or not you meant to hurt anyone’s feelings, you did. The write up came off condescending and insulting, though it was in a reserved way, it is insulting. I agree there are many A list bloggers who don’t deserve it. No one of any stature has ever given me a link. The big blogs turn their noses up at regular people and only link to other big blogs. Viral marketing to me and these other people I am involved with means marketing without greed. We share links for the betterment of all of us. Without buying links or paying a company a large monthly fee then we won’t gain any power. If you apply solid, honest and a sense of friendliness to viral marketing, then it becomes something good. Every person I know doing it are industrious, smart, hardworking and willing to help others much more than any of the big blogs would ever do. The type of viral marketing we do is not only good, it’s good for the web as a whole. It has evolved incredibly and quickly - right now it is very good way to operate. Viral marketers are more about making friends and being social than stuffy guys on top who only care for themselves. If viral marketers takes over the web, I will be one of them. I hope it does as the web would be a much better place run by people who want to know you. Linkage is power on line, and viral marketing is giving the masses a chance to get some of what they have been cheated of since the web began. I do not not hold grudges and I’m not mad at you. Just understand that never asked to be written about and certainly hasn’t done anything to be criticized by anyone. My advice is simply to leave her alone and don’t visit her. If later on she wants to talk to you then that will be her decision. Just leave her be. Have a good day.
Hi Joe, thank you. I guess I never realized just how old fashioned I am. I was taught to treat women differently than a lot of guys. I can’t even hang out with a guy that doesn’t treat women in the same manner I do. I sense you are like that too. I say it’s a good thing and I am proud of who I am, and proud of my friends. This has been a draining experience with these comments - there is a lot of emotion in here! I miss Marzie already and it’s only been a day! Thanks again Joe, you have a great week
Another of my blogging friends has been going through a similar situation just because she tackles serious issues in her life on her blog and a reader hs the opinion that blogs should only be funny and aoubt lighthearted subject matter. It led to personal attacks and a very unhappy situation for this blogger and another who wrote a post in support of her on his blog. Now, she has doubts about continuing her blog and if she stopped writing, the blogging community would lose a great voice.
Wolfgang: I hate to hear that. I have almost quit a few times too. I hope your friend pulls through and things turn out good. Best wishes
Most of what I wanted to say has been mentioned by other people here so I’ll keep this short.
A blogger attacking another blogger is not a smart move. A blogger attacking a blogger who happens to be a “real” person like Marzie is unbelievably daft. What’s the big deal about her not posting on those days? Is she under contract? Has it occurred to this person that Marzie has a life beyond blogging and that many things can happen in real life that can prevent a blogger from posting?
Condescension is another name for insecurity.
Bobby - Very nice post.
Marzie - We’re all behind you.
I don’t know that he see’s what he did as an attack or not. It was though because Marzie never asked for a review or had any idea at all he would do that. My goal along with everyone I know is to be friendly and enjoy all the great people and endless wonders of the web. Negative posts and condescending attitudes are not welcome in my world. I agree 100% with your line on insecurity. Thanks BB, words to live by
Why is there is always someone out to trash another?
Surely we blog because we enjoy it, we can learn from each other, build lasting friendships through common dialogue. It isn’t written in stone that if you blog you have to post everyday!!
I have 2 mainstream blogs, 1 is well rated and the other isn’t, but I’m not bothered about that….it’s the fun and interaction with others, and helping others along the way. Input and comments are always welcome and responded to, but I wouldn’t even contemplate trashing someone elses blog…..it’s what THEY wnat to blog about, and quite rightly too.
I’m still a newbie to blogging, only been doing it for 4 months and I hear what others have to say and enjoy helping others along too……isn’t this the bottom line? We are here to help each other by participating and seeking advice, passing on advice and so on…it’s not all me me me!!
Colin: Thanks for coming. I cannot answer your 1st question but I can make sure that I don’t! I haven’t read your blog yet and it’s nice to meet you by the way. I like your attitude and I’ll come by and maybe we can help eachother. All the folks commenting here might be some great folks for you to go meet yourself. Good luck in blogging
Whee, look at all the Marzie love
Ya know I decided to check out that Dave guy’s blog last night. Whoa, it looks like a total link farm. I couldn’t tell where one post ended and another began. How dare he criticize someone else and their blog so harshly when his own is such a mess? If that’s what a real blog is supposed to look like I’d rather not blog at all =/
Hi Bobby!
First of all, let me take my hat’s off to you for coming out with this post, I for one had wanted to do likewise. Come on, we all know Marzie too well, she could write a bestseller if she wanted to, that is how much of talent this lady has. So what is the big fuss, Mr Dave Lucas??
I mean, who does this guy think he is that gives him the right to dictate what is right and what is wrong ?? (1) In no book is it stated as law that a blogger should post everyday! (2) Most of DL’s comments on his site is Anonymous (doesn’t he have real readers commenting?) (3) He got his facts wrong, the site that was listed in Technorati Top 10K was not her Perfume Blog but instead it was her other blog - Mariuca. So, Mr Dave Lucas, in future we hope you would refrain from writing such false propaganda as this is totally unethical in my opinion. To Mr Dave Lucas, I say this, we may be some small time blogger to you, but let me tell you this, our friendship here is much bigger than your page rank at any given day !!
Nihal: Everone stand clear, Nihal has spoken his mind! Thank you. Your last line sums everything up for me. The friendship We all share is something the big blogs don’t have. They should be jealous of us because money cannot buy the love that has been displayed in this thread of comments. I am truly without words to everyone who has come to give their hearts for this wonderful friend to us all, Mariuca. I wish upon a falling star that Marzie never have this happen again. I wish everyone happiness, love and peace. Thanks Nihal, you have a great day
I find it funny that when one starts blogging, it’s all about wanting to put down your thoughts in a ‘diary’ at your own time and space. Then you start getting readers who expect you to inform and entertain them everyday like a tabloid. Suddenly you whole idea of blogging has changed…sometimes to suit meet the readers’ expectation. A blogger should be very clear of his own objectives and not sway or succumb to any unnecessary pressure. It’s your own space afterall. Plus, the readers are not paying to read your blog. So while I don’t know Marzie, I think she has the right to update her blog whenever she feels like or mingle in the community.
Blur ting: Thanks, that’s right! We are all free to do as WE wish and WHEN we wish on our blogs
Bobby,
I have four blogs and I’ve been around about as long as Marzie has. And I’ll tell you when I see other bloggers pull crappy ugly stunts like this guy did…it make me sad and it shows how small they are. Why does anyone have to throw anyone else under the bus ever? What’s the point? My hat is off to you Bobby. The only time you throw someone else under the bus is because you’re jealous. You think if throw them under the bus, you take it away from them and therefore make yourself bigger. All you’ve done is make yourself smaller.
<p>Ev Nucci: Hello! I agree, just be a good person, treat people well and your life is much better! And never mean to innocent people who are nice!!!:smile:</p>
Before I ever knew Marzie, I was blog hopping and her blog caught my eye, I instantly knew she was a fun and creative person, and based on her blog alone I instantly like her! It turns out I’m not the only one, and yes she is popular, just like a lot of other great bloggers.
Being a great blogger is based on a variety of skills, and social networking is one of them.
Before bloggers say negative things about other bloggers I wish they would just stop and think…can any good really come out of it? A good blogger with good content shouldn’t have to pick apart others, especially someone as well loved as Marzie.
Christy: Thanks for that! Yes, you can be a great blogger for a number of reasons. Being a great commenter is a reason even if that person barely ever writes a post. I think I could go out and only comment and NOT even have a blog and gain respect. Anyone can too! I love how each person has their own thing, that’s what it’s all about:smile:
There are some names here that I’m not familiar with but would definitely like to get to know better. Makes me proud to be in this discussion with all of you.
Brown Baron: I have to say I am honoured to be in the position to have had this discussion with every person here. BB, it sure makes blogging a meaningful experience for us all. To be straight forward, this was the most incredible comment discussion I have ever been involved in, I’ll never forget it and I am humbled by all the gestures of goodwill from everyone. . .thank you
Very well said Bobby!
I don’t believe that knocking other bloggers in this manner is the proper way to go. And I’m not sure that someone who does so in this way should even be writing posts about “Ethical Blogging.”
Beyond that, I don’t believe he’s actually giving it to us straight. He says that his old blog (Capitol Region People) gets 250 hits a day, yet, I’m looking at the his Motigo webstats account right now, and the hits aren’t anywhere near that. 102 for yesterday, 98 for the day before. Heck, the page views don’t even come close. And Alexa rank = 1,111,788. So 250 hits per day? Not a chance. So what gives? Perhaps it was a typo.
Nonetheless, I don’t agree with what he said or the point he was attempting to make. Additionally, what “ethical blogging” is to one person or group of people may not considered ethical blogging to another.
Thus far, no universal standard has been set, nor will it ever be. Ethics are purely sets of principles of right conduct, theories or a systems of moral values. What’s ethical to some won’t be to others. And in blogging, there’s no set outline. Bottom line, I think his post was severely misguided.
Shine on,
Aaron
Aaron: Wow! That is a very detailed report, thank you very much! You have a very clear way of describing things that everyone will understand. I know they will all appreciate your newsflash Aaron Cook dot com update
It has always been about the popularity and the hits and being part of the clique whether it is MySpace, Blogger, AOL-J-land or the multitude of network sharing that goes on. It is what it is. And those at the top have always been ridiculed, debased, and sometimes terrorized. Being a “professional” writer is not all that uncommon on the web, Pia Savage, Nancy Nall just to throw out those whoes names I can spell (lol)….It’s like High School. Once again, it is what it is.
Mary: It is much like highschool and you are right that many on top are ridiculed. Personally, I write simply because I love to. I was a rebel growing up and never joined any clubs, groups and especially never was part of a clique. At times I wish I had been part of these things. Now, I am just thankful that a tiny handful of people in the world read what I write:smile:
You would be surprised how many people… really good writers included, fall victim to that mentality. I used to fervently blog at MySpace before pointed in the direction of Blogger and I have found that blogging there is a horrible place to write for the exact reasons you mention here. People get jealous of others who had earned adoration of their readers and so-called “friends”, so they feel justified in trying to defame them on some level.
It is sad to see similar issues here at Blogger. I had really hoped to get away from that. And it is awesome to see you defend your friend. I personally have fallen in love with the community of bloggers I have the pleasure to read and consequently “correspond” with here at Blogger.
This was a great write, by the way. I came here via Wolfgang’s blog. I shall return again soon :o)
Pen and the Sword: Thank you. We all feel jealousy from time to time, but we should think before we act! I will come visit soon, but right now I have barely had time to answer these comments:smile:
I’m sorry, I thought who, how, and why a person blogs is their own business! Its THEIR blog, for God’s sake. Why on earth would someone go after such a sweet person. Honestly, something like this reflects so much more about the person doing the whining. He should just tend to his own site, and leave everyone else to do as they please. I apologize, Bobby, but this kind of thing really pushes my buttons.
HollyGL: It pushes my buttons too! You are also one I consider to be a sweetheart blogger that always has good things to say about others. If anyone ever says anything bad about you, just let me know and we’ll teach them a lesson on being kind. That’s right, just tend to your own site. If we do write something about others, we should write something positive. Unfortunately some people do deserve to be shown to the public in a negative light. I really don’t want people to hate Dave, I just want Dave to learn a lesson about this. If someone deserves to be criticized it certainly isn’t Marzie. She has always been so nice and giving to others. If anything, she should be looked up to for being so kind and friendly. I know I look up to her, and she is the person who taught me all about commenting. Today, I am a better person simply from being her friend. She has truly helped change my entire outlook on blogging, and I am a stubborn person. Thanks Holly, I apologize for being so scarce, I am under pressure and have little time for surfing this past three weeks. I will be by soon:smile:
wow! it is so hot in here.. i didn’t expect this has turned into big issue.. although the Dave has a point there.. but so what? Mariuca has every right to blog when ever she want to.. write one great post in a week is far better than write one ordinary and boring post every day.. i know when ever she is not blogging she will read other blogs and commented.. she is so kind to spend time reading other blogs instead of concentrating on write on her blog.. she can just don’t bother about other blogs and just write and comment on her blog and make more money… but she didn’t.. that’s what makes her so special.. what you guys think?
Dani: I can barely type this reply to you right now as I feel very sad at the moment. To put it simply, Marzie is my best friend and I care about her very much. Thank you Dani:smile:
I miss you Marzie
Hi Bobby! It’s time for me to say something here! Thank you for doing this, I never expected you to come to my defense but now that you did, I can only say thanks! It means the world to me that you AND everyone HERE are giving me and my blogs this overwhelming sense of support. I LOVE you guys and there will never be enough words for me to express my gratitude at how u and everyone here have helped me pull through this ugly episode. Thanks so much again for EVERYTHING! Loads of love and hugs for all
Marzie, I am proud of you for adding your comment. I could fully understand if you didn’t and it did take some courage on your behalf to do do so. I would do anything to help you or any of my friends no matter what. Everyone of these people who showed they care, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Marzie, thank you. It means so much to me personally to have you say this. You are a true friend. Here is to a beautiful new day filled with hope and happiness:smile:
Marzie is sweet and kind… a shining, warm light online.
*hugs* to her (and you, too, Bobby)
Adria: Thank you! This has been the toughest of tough weeks for me and Marzie too. Having you here really makes me feel better
ohhhhh im just learning about this!!
i hv to say im a little shocked!! why would anyone pick on Marzie??? shes a wonderful girl, a good blogger , YES a good blogger cause being a blogger is so much more then writing content!!
go Marzie u r the best! hugs and kisses!
Confessing7girl: Well, we are putting this behind us and today is a great day. Her Coffee Mug contest is one of the most successful projects I’ve ever seen from a blogger. She can have a blog for anything she wants and her blog is without a doubt one of the most popular up & coming blogs. Thanks C7Girl, it’s always nice to see you