I remember how beautiful it was, when I first began blogging, how eager and innocent my attitude was. I remember how it felt to make new friends and how joyous it all seemed. I was in such a lonely situation, having the love of my life leave me when I was just about to ask her to marry me.
In many ways, blogging saved me. I had new friends that listened to what I had to say. People actually cared that my life had been nearly destroyed. Most of my family is gone an so are most of my friends. I have been burned to a crisp by love and risen from the ashes time and time again.
There must come a point when a person can no longer rise, shouldn’t there? I often wonder why I am still here. There must be a reason, yet in my heart, I feel empty. I feel cold and alone. I feel like I no longer want to be in this life.
When growing up, I thought I would graduate from college, meet the girl of my dreams and live happily ever after. It didn’t work that way for me and for those of you that are lucky enough to have that kind of life, do not ever forget how fortunate you are.
That wondrous feeling I once had for blogging, much like my dreams of love, have wilted like petals from a dying flower. I got all caught up in the technical aspect of blogging and it has completely destroyed my drive to even read a single post. It has become a passionless chore for me to get up and write.
Can someone die from a broken heart? I don’t know, but it must surely be better than living with one. Many of you might not understand how hard it is to wake up everyday alone and know that when you go to sleep, you will go to sleep alone. It’s a feeling that I can no longer bear.
I don’t know if I will be back to ever write another post. I am so depressed and sad right now, I wish I could give you an answer. All I know is that this blog, which once meant so much to me, feels dead. I feel dead.
Some of you who know me well, know I suffer from depression. I have never hidden anything about myself from you. Right now, I am very sick, very scared and very empty. I love my friends very much. I wish I felt normal and happy, but I do not.
I constantly think of deleting this blog and lately when I write, it’s all I think about. I am truly sorry that I am telling you this. I hope I can feel better soon, but it is making me sick just writing this. I hope I feel better one day, but I do not think it will be soon. I just want this feeling to go away.
In the event that I do not return, I want to say, goodbye.



#1 by menopauseprincess at November 8th, 2007
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Hey Bobby,
I am so sorry you feel this way. Depression is horrendous and debilitating; it can be so hard to see clearly and with no close support system it can be extremely difficult.
Bobby, you know we all care greatly about you, but that doesn’t translate into someone who can hold you and comfort you when you’re lonely. I truly hope you can find some help because you are a fabulously giving, caring, and special person.
You must do what’s best and take care of yourself. I am sending prayers and good thoughts to you always.
Hugs,
MP
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#2 by Tish at November 8th, 2007
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Bobby, I am so sorry to hear that you feel so sad. I know how it feels to go to sleep alone every night – to wake up alone. I’m 35 years old, and much like you, I had my life all mapped out so many years ago. I would marry my soulmate, have 2.5 kids, a white picket fence…
Things didn’t work out that way. But you know what? Maybe they weren’t supposed to. Or maybe they were – just not yet. I honestly believe that things happen as they should. Perhaps we have lessons to be learned before we meet that perfect person. We have no way of knowing what will happen in the grand scheme of things.
I do know one thing though. You are a wonderful, wonderful person. And any girl would be lucky to be with you. Don’t give up. You will find her.
I love your blog, and I love you. Write. It’s who you are. It’s what you do. You bring joy to so many people by just being yourself here on your blog.
You never know…that girl you’re supposed to meet might just stop by your blog. So start posting already!
If you ever need someone to talk to, look me up on YIM, or email me. And if you need to chat on the phone, I’ll be happy to give you my number. Take care, Bobby.
Tish’s last blog post..Thursday Thoughts #4
#3 by mr fong at November 8th, 2007
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I will pray for u………
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#4 by Mark at November 8th, 2007
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Bobby, you my friend, have a purpose. Granted, we only know each other through our blogs, as such we have only a small window with which to know each other. However, I can honestly say, with just that knowledge, you clearly have touched the lives of many. Some bloggers (myself included) can only dream of the responses you get from your posts. Whether or not your purpose has to do with blogging, only you can answer. But know this: you have friends from afar who appreciate your presence and the gift of yourself.
May God bless you, friend, and may He help you find peace.
Mark’s last blog post..November is Alzheimer?s Awareness Month
#5 by WaterLearner at November 8th, 2007
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!
Bobby,
I can’t be very sure that I know what you are going through right now. And I am not so sure if it was that Paid-post thing that trigger it or that you had suddenly realised how virtual relationships in the blogosphere provides. We are human beings and naturally have need for physical companionship and love.
We may be very far distances apart, but the concern and love from your good friends like Genie Princess, Jean, Emila, Janice, Winston …. are all very real. We really do care about it.
Dude, take some time off. To recharge. Everyone needs to stop for a moment at times in this Journey of Life to look back and re-examine one’s priorities in life.
I can’t make you feel better. But we are around you while you are down.
Blessings!
WaterLearner’s last blog post..60 Good Years
#6 by WaterLearner at November 8th, 2007
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I WILL NOT WATCH YOU DIE!!!
Listen here dude… many of us here care about you. You can be feeling a little low now. You can don’t visit any of our blogs and curl up to reflect a little. But don’t you dare cut away from us. Bobby!!! Listen here, you are very important to us! You are not alone!!
WaterLearner’s last blog post..60 Good Years
#7 by Jean at November 9th, 2007
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oh gosh bobby, you’ve promised me that you will keep blogging. Pls do not bid us goodbye now.
you made me cried with this post. i am so sorry that you’re going through this low chapter in your book of life. I won’t admit that i truly understand how u felt but I almost can feel your loneliness through your writing. Please bear in mind that alot of us cares for you and you’ve many many wonderful friends here who are willing to help you.
Bobby, you’re in my prayers. Do not give up on yourself! We are ALL here for you!!! *Group HUGZ*
Jean’s last blog post..Go By Pair
#8 by Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" at November 9th, 2007
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I hope that I missed something, and this is a fictitional account, but you sound very sincere. I don’t know if I can say anything to help here, but I will send a prayer and a virtual hug over to your place. You are a good man, and that is a rare thing these days.
Eric
Eric “Speedcat Hollydale”‘s last blog post..Olga was Hanging Right Under My Nose Tom Selleck
#9 by shiera at November 9th, 2007
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Hey Bobby,
This may be my first time to comment here… I’ve dropped by a few times but I really do hope you are OK.
Hang in there… You still have so many friends and I know that they’re/we’re growing in number. You’ve also helped a lot of people… your posts uplifted me.
I sincerely hope you’ll gonna be ok… we’re just rallying behind you.
#10 by NAFA at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby, our friend,
When we first got to know about u, we knew u very well as that highly spirited blogger who had a vision, and that vision u had was to inspire all of us with your blog. And we know u still are deep down. Bobby, this is the time when u just need to take time off from everything that gets u tensed up, and do some soul searching.
Yes it is true, a time like this can make one feel like he or she does not want to live anymore. We faced that too before Bobby. U are not alone! We faced it too. But we don’t have to oblige to dying from a broken heart. A broken heart can mend, and your broken heart is not an exception. You can come back to life. What u need is the inner strength to pick yourself up once again, and we believe u have that.
U have inspired many of us, and u can inspire us again. And one thing is for sure, u have not lost anyone here in the blogosphere. So please, take good care of yourself, take it slowly, and keep your spirit alive ok? And u know we are right behind u cheering for u.
NAFA’s last blog post..Trustsource.org: The Source You Can Trust
#11 by Brown Baron at November 9th, 2007
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I’m one of the lucky people that have been privileged to call you friend. If I could take away your pain I would. Before you decide to delete this blog allow me to remind you of one thing. The strongest swords are made by repeatedly bringing them into the fire. You are one of the strongest people around. You won’t drown Bobby, we’ll pull you out.
Brown Baron’s last blog post..How To Change Windows Explorer Default To Open A Different Folder
#12 by Polliwog at November 9th, 2007
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Oh sweetheart! I understand, I do. I want to delete my blog daily sometimes. I, too suffer from depression at times and anxiety. I have some overwhelming situations. I suppose the fact I have children keeps me getting up and going on. You are so loved by so many. I’m just one tiny voice. But I love you and I want you to stay with us and keep fighting. What can I do Bobby? Email or call me anytime.
Polliwog’s last blog post..BlogBlast For Peace Happenings
#13 by Genie Princess at November 9th, 2007
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Hola Bobby! Blogging can still be wonderful, if u let it be. Things may not seem to go your way right now, but everyone has their ups and downs. Take some time off to nurse ur broken heart if u have to Bobby but don’t give up. You have so many friends and fans, you can’t disappoint them now. It’s time to fight this depression Bobby, don’t let it win and eat you up slowly. I’m not sure what’s bothering you right now, but you can always talk to me if need be. Your good friends are all here for you and we’d hate to see our mentor and Friend down in the dumps right now. Take care Bobby and here’s a super duper special GP hug for you!
Genie Princess’s last blog post..Get Smorty!
#14 by Jos at November 9th, 2007
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Hi Bobby,
I am here because Santa asks us to go and leave you some words of support.
But maybe how you feel right now words just wouldn’t mean all that much to you. I hope, however, that one of us coming in here to try and make you feel a bit better will find the right words to lift you up a bit..
I know that when you’re feeling depressed people always tell you to cheer up — and that is usually exactly NOT what you want to hear, when you feel like that. All I can say is that the meaning of life – and the meaning of blogging – is only to find inner peace.
You may feel depressed, and your blog may feel dead to you right now. But it will come back, I just know that. At the risk of sounding exactly not how I want to sound: Give it some time and take a look at things from a few different angles, just as an exercise, maybe – new angles can be great.
Take Care, -Jos
Jos’s last blog post..AIDS is still advancing. Protect yourself.
#15 by evirtualpie at November 9th, 2007
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hey Boobby buck up , life like a mountain, ups and down but got to reach top.
So be positive and be happy, life is too precious to ignore and let it pass by.
evirtualpie’s last blog post..Big Ideas
#16 by Amel at November 9th, 2007
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BIIIIIIIIIIIIIIGGGGGGGGGGGGG HUGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!
I believe that someone can still rise from the ashes as long as that person has breath still. I believe that you can do it, too…maybe it takes some time to be stuck in the darkest swamp of life…yet you WILL find the hope and strength to carry on. Rest if you must…but see you sometime again.
Amel’s last blog post..Found It Online!!!
#17 by emila at November 9th, 2007
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Bobbyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
emila’s last blog post..Happy Deepavali!
#18 by @}-- ruby --{@ at November 9th, 2007
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hey bobby, what is this goodbye all about?!?
my heart aches as i read your entry. it reminds me of the same situation i have been before. like you, there once a point in my life i felt dead, a living dead, walking and making a living lifelessly. a life i questioned, what am i doing here, what is my purpose, and if i have a mission here on earth, tell me now, show me now, so i can fulfill it and move on. I know very well how much you feel right now, at least i can relate with that depression [though i don't really know the reason]. i know being dead inside doesn’t hurt anymore, it’s like being numb from pain and disappointment, and we just go on each day because we know we have to. as the depression takes us, we refuse to fight it for sometimes it brought happiness because we felt we don’t have to care about the world who so turned its back on us. we very well know that depression is so deep but we still plunge into it, doesn’t care if we got drowned. but i got hold of myself and pull out of it, and you will too. so better get hold of yourself and show yourself the love you have found for yourself as you have posted before. you owe it to yourself bobby. we could always be in a struggle even with ourselves, but it is still us who will love ourselves in the end the most. even when the whole universe turned their back on us. as you have said above, blogging have saved you many ways, no matter how, you will be saved. it is by experiencing death that we learned to treasure life more. the more close we are to death the more we cling and hold to life. you will get well soon, don’t loose hope, take your time and heal, don’t rush yourself to come to terms with life, if you do, time and time again you will be at that point until what you ought to learn in life is learned.
And no one dies from a broken heart, only with no heart at all! so cheer up, even the broken one can be fixed. if it is love that broke it, it is love that will make it whole again
a tight hug from someone who care
p.s. sometimes we have to go to find our way back. so if you must go, go… so you would find your way back… and when you return, we will be here waiting
[but i hope you don't have to]
@}– ruby –{@’s last blog post..Happy Birthday Nelda!!!
#19 by WaterLearner at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby,
I have lost count how many times I have visited your blog to check on you today. At times I left comments, others I shouted or only quietly came and quietly left.
I believe many others are doing the same as me. So listen up. You are not lonely here. You have all of us here walking with you. Even if the portion of your journey now is nothing but a stretch of shitty smelly dark pit, … we are here to walk with you.
I know the hurt it must have felt to lose someone when you were intending to marry her. I know the pain must be really very real. It’s foolish to tell you that the pain will go away when the pain is obviously still there. But do not push the rest of the people who really care about you away. Everyone has gone through dark moments in life. The reason of having friends is to share happy and sad moments. You have been the happiness of many of us here in the blogosphere. I am the techno-Idiot whom you have patiently coached to know about Technorati, PageRanks, SEO Links … etc. Please, let us share your pain then. Pour your pain out. Let it be a form of Emotional Release. Don’t keep it inside like this.
Please Bobby. Please. Please Bobby. Please.
WaterLearner’s last blog post..60 Good Years
#20 by WaterLearner at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby …. COME BACK!!!!! COME BACK!!!!!
COME BACK!!!
COME BACK!!!
WaterLearner’s last blog post..Stop for a Moment
#21 by Robin Sardini at November 9th, 2007
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I have been where you are MY Friend. It is the loneliest place that you NEVER want to be. I would hug you if I could be there. The human connection, the human touch was the only thing that kept me anchored in this life when I didn’t want to be here. Let those of us who know you, love you. You will be well again. Right now it looks so bleak and feels like death. That’s the depression creating those feelings. I urge you to talk to your doctor if you haven’t already. It takes some time before those neurotransmitters can come back into balance with the proper help, so the sooner you get help the better. I know you know that. So many of us are extremely worried about you, Bobby. I know it’s the worst thing in the world not to want to be here anymore, but please, DEAR ONE, do NOT do anything to hurt yourself. Call a hotline, call two. Talk to someone, anyone, and just keep talking. Don’t give up, man! We need you here, Bobby! Listen..you’ve had the courage to write this to us..we hear you loud and clear. I speak for all of us who care so very much..please, we urge you, please take good care of YOU. You deserve the very best life and it’s not over yet, Bobby! No, it’s not. I know it may feel like that right now, but you have to give yourself the benefit of the doubt and realize that’s the depression, the all-consuming depression. If you can’t talk to your doctor personally today then go to an ER. I would drive you there myself, as would any of us, if that were possible. If you can’t do it for yourself, call 911. Nope, I’m not overreacting. I hear the desperation in this post. Just do it, Bobby! You are soooooooo worth it! So very worth it! You deserve to be well again..please take the next step to get there. Much Love from our deepest heart and soul,
Robin and all your Friends at MyBlogLog and Santa’s community
Robin Sardini’s last blog post..Dona Nobis Pacem
#22 by Liza's Eyeview at November 9th, 2007
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I came here from Santa’s Community Blog. I just want to give you a cyberhug and tell you to hang in there. I also would like to invite you to visit my blog. It’s a very simple blog but you might find something there that might bring some joy to your life. I’d be back to read some more of your posts – in the meantime (((((HUGS))))).
Liza
Liza’s Eyeview’s last blog post..UTI and Other Ramblings
#23 by Liza's Eyeview at November 9th, 2007
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OK, I left a comment and I don’t know what happened to it …
I’d come back later yo check if it went through…
Liza’s Eyeview’s last blog post..UTI and Other Ramblings
#24 by BTDT at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby, I’m just a lurker here. I never comment but today I feel like I have to.
Do you take medication for your depression? If you don’t, please try it. From personal experience, I know it helps. It doesn’t make life perfect but it makes it better.
Please know that you aren’t alone. There are many of us who know exactly how you feel. I’ve battled depression most of my life and it is hell. But there IS light at the end of the tunnel.
One more thing… you helped me out today. Yesterday was one of my days of hell. Today could easily have been one also. Through your post, I can see that I am not the only one who battles the demon depression. I am not alone in my despair. So often it feels like nobody knows what it is like or how it feels. So often it feels like nobody cares. But you know what? *I* care and that matters. I care about myself and I care about you. Survive, Bobby! You will someday be glad that you did.
#25 by Comedy Plus at November 9th, 2007
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See your doctor immediately. I worked in law enforcement for 25 years. You need medical help now. This is not your fault, it is your illness. Please notice that and get some help. Big hug to you.
Sandee
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#26 by Dawn at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby, you are crashing emotionally please seek help. Now. Today.
I’ve suffered from depression, self-mutilation, and suicide attempts since I was a child. I know how crippling depression can be. I can also tell you are viewing life through a fun house mirror right now. The pain you are feeling right now will pass. It will subside. You just have to ride out this storm.
Please take care of yourself, okay?
Dawn’s last blog post..Am I a mean girl or just outspoken?
#27 by FeelingFlirty at November 9th, 2007
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Hey Babe, losing the love of your life can be tragic even without depression, so you must do something to stop the spiraling downward.
Once when I was in a similar situation someone told me I could control my thoughts and I thought she was nuts. She proved it to me. Think about a happy moment in your past that made you laugh or made you extremely happy. Think about that thought and hold it in your mind for 16 seconds. You’ll end up with a smile on your face. You can’t cheat because it always works.
This is obviously not a solution but proof that you can control how you feel or control your point of view about what’s going on.
I don’t know you well but I know what you have written and that’s a small window into your personality. I’m convinced you’re worth fighting for.
I’ll be sending my good thoughts to you all day.
Hugs,
FF
FeelingFlirty’s last blog post..Does circumcision matter when dating?
#28 by trinity at November 9th, 2007
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bobby I am dying as well… I need to send email to copyrighted godaddy and follow all steps at
(
http://www.godaddy.com/gdshop/legal_agreements/show_doc.asp?se=%2B&pageid=TRADMARK%5FCOPY
but I don’t understand how to do it…
I want to cry when I come here and find this post..
(
trinity’s last blog post..Please excuse me
#29 by Rolando at November 9th, 2007
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Hey my friend, I don’t think that deleting this site or your life is the answer. Wait a minute, I know it’s not the answer.
I know it probably feels like you can die from a broken heart. You might feel like your soul is sinking deep within your body with no where to go. But you have to get up as painful as it is.
Although your family and friends are away, we are still here and we care and love you. Things like this just don’t go away over night. It takes time, it take hope and courage.
I know you have it within you. Life isn’t what you expect or hope it to be, but you make the best of it. You have and you’ve done a great job of it! Your blog is one of the most active blogs I’ve seen. You breath life in the blogosphere with your love and passion.
You have touched all our lives, you’ve made us laugh and smile. Just hold on my friend. You’ll get by today, you’ll get up and do it again tomorrow. We love you.
Rolando’s last blog post..Body Shock
#30 by Susie at November 9th, 2007
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I haven’t read your blog before, but happened to visit today. I think it can feel like you would die from a broken heart right now, and believe me I know how it feels, I’ve been through it too. Even though I have 4 kids, I’ve been alone most of my adult life, I’ve got several broken relationships behind me and it never feels easy.
I know what depression is too and I know how feels when you don’t want to wake up to a new morning, but you have to, you owe it to yourself and to the people in this world. We need you, all the people in this world needs you even though you don’t believe it now.
I have a child that once suffered from depression and didn’t want to live anymore. I sat with her several nights and prevented her from harming herself, because I knew she really wanted to live, she just didn’t know how to live a happy life. She was angry at me, she shouted at me and cursed me, but we got through it and now she is happy with her life and happy to live. If I were where you are now I would do the same to you and even though you don’t know me, feel free to write me anytime and I will respond.., we can talk all day or night, if that is what you need.
Susie’s last blog post..What’s in a Lady?
#31 by Colin at November 9th, 2007
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Hey Bobby,
I can relate to much of what you have written…..but I won’t bore you with the details, but I will say that it all comes right in its own time, but in between it is hard. Even us guys have feelings and I’m not afraid to say that some things make me cry, sad, depressed. I too live alone, wake alone and spend most of my time on my own. My blogging friends online are absolutely the finest people one could meet, friends offline are few and far between, but they are the people I would trust with my life.
Take your time, take time to get out and do something different and remember there are many blogger friends who are praying for you right now, and if we could lift your spirits then we would shift heaven and hell to help…..that’s why we are here.
God Bless you Bobby, take care and get back to us when you are ready.
Colin
Colin’s last blog post..Santa Awards Me
#32 by maketraffic at November 9th, 2007
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Hi Bobby, though i am not in a position to console you right now as i am also quite troubled over my work issues but i still want to encourage you as you are one of the best blog writer s(frank and honest) i have ever seen on the blogsphere. So for the sake of all your friends and supporters, please continue to blog. I hope to see you back in the blogsphere, my friend. Take care.MakeTraffic
maketraffic’s last blog post..Project Heavy Traffic 100th Web Post
#33 by Mighty Morgan at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby….I’m sending you warm wishes, love and hugs right now.
Your not alone…although you may feel that way. I know all about depression since i suffer from it’s crippling effects at time. I don’t really know what to say to you that could help, nor do i think i am that powerful to think that my words could have that power.
All i can say is that i know how you feel and my heart goes out to you in that dark place in which you are now dwelling……sometimes you need to go to the edge of desperation, darkness and despair to find the essence of hope that has somehow gotten lost.
I hope you do return…and I hope you take care of yourself and that you realize you deserve more then you feel at this moment in time.
Love and hugs…..Morgan
Mighty Morgan’s last blog post..Hope
#34 by Reverend Ray Southerland at November 9th, 2007
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My Dear Friend–
Life seems unfair, and maybe it is. I really don’t know. Many times when we start out in life wide eyed and innocense we thing we have the world by the tail. Then those tribulations come: death of a loved one, spouse leaves us, being fired from our dream job, and many many more hurts of the heart.
I have PTSD because of some life experiences in V.N. many years ago. I had a beautiful wife leave me, I have been fired from my dream church where I was Senior Pastor, then lately I had 4 strokes which again cost me my life’s goals and dreams.
Throughout life I kept my faith in Christ even thought there was times I felt He had left me and I was all alone. Yet through the storms Jesus has walked up to my rocking boat. Unlike Peter I didn’t jump out of the boat. I stayed inside the safety of the boat. But He crawled inside the boat and weathered the storm with me.
I did marry again, which caused me many headaches being a preacher and all that. I won’t go into those details. I now have three great step kids all grown and very successful. Two wonderful step-sons-in-law that I love dearly. Life is still hard and there are lots of heartaches. But I always look for that clear sky no matter how small it may be off in the distance. What I am saying is work harder with your blogs, put one foot in front of the other, and sure enough it does get better.
My friend I am here just write to me anytime. I will listen with an open heart. Rev Ray
Reverend Ray Southerland’s last blog post..GOD’S FAMILY CHURCH DOCTRINAL STATEMENT
#35 by Erina Hart at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby,
By the end of the day, there will be a letter in your email inbox. I know you don’t feel like reading anything at the moment. But please, read my letter.
Love,
Erina
Erina Hart’s last blog post..Burned Out With Meaning
#36 by mauniejames3 at November 9th, 2007
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I wish I could think of something to help you…we all know how badly we feel and all of us have been there…even though right now it doesn’t seem possible…you will, in fact feel better some day….you have to fight this and we are all behind you…you have to see a doctor and get some help…nothing is forever…even all the bad feelings will somehow pass…please look back to a happier time and consider what made you happiest then..pretend your living threw those times now..people can’t make us happier, only we can make us happier,,you probably feel betrayed and confused..reading and silly old movies help me..and love of friends and even strangers helps…wish I could reach through
the page and give you a great big hug right now…come to my blog anytime…I would love to be your friend…maun
#37 by dcr at November 9th, 2007
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I’m sure others will have better advice than I, but I’ll just offer the basic “hang in there!” You were one of my earliest MBL contacts, so I remember you even if I don’t frequent your blog often.
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#38 by Erina Hart at November 9th, 2007
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I sent you the email. It should be in your @gmail.com inbox.
I hope it finds you well.
Love,
Erina
Erina Hart’s last blog post..Burned Out With Meaning
#39 by Christy at November 9th, 2007
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Hi Bobby,
I’m sorry you’re feeling so horrible. And I hope you’re not really saying goodbye. Everyone loves your blog and would miss you terribly. I don’t know if you ever got my email, I hope so. If you ever need anything just let me know. I hope you feel better soon.
Christy’s last blog post..35 and Counting….
#40 by Hawk at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby, I’m very sorry you feel as you do! I will not attempt to say I understand what you are going through because I do not. I have, however, have had to battle my own demons and periods of loneliness. At times in the past, when I felt there was no hope, no escape, no answers, the moment of my greatest darkness, I would think about my friends, and my children. Just the mere thought of how blessed I was to have them in my life, permitted me to find the strength to move forward. It is very difficult thing to do, but you have many friends. More than you are aware.
For sometime now, I have been visiting your site through my reader. I have only left one or two comments on a few posts. As a nebulous blogger among the hundreds of thousands that exist, you have been very helpful to me for which I am greatly appreciated. Perhaps I should have communicated this earlier.
Your presence, your friendship, and your very existence has meaning with which you should know and understand. Many people care about you and it would be very sad if a dark void is created as a result of your departure.
I will be sending timbers up on your behalf and I wish you peace and comfort in this most difficult and trying time. I promise you, tomorrow will be better than today, but not as good as the day following.
With warm regards,
Hawk
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#41 by Jon at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby! You have so many of us behind you. Please come back and talk with us. You’ve given so much love and you just have to hold on. . . and talk . . . I can’t say anything other than I will stand by your side! I’m here for you brother. Love you.
jon
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#42 by Diane at November 9th, 2007
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Dear Bobby
I don’t really know you very well except that you wrote a very lovely comment on my Stumbleupon page and added me to your Technorati favourites right at the beginning when I was very new to blogging and it was kindness from people like you that encouraged me to keep going with it.
My husband left me 6 years ago after 25 years of marriage so I understand some of what you are saying. The world can seem a very harsh place. It’s easy to think that everyone else is loved up, coupled up and you are the only one who is all alone. I still have moments when I think that too. I have nights when I dread going to bed alone and find getting up to make an effort through yet another day alone almost too much to bear. But the old cliche is true, it does get easier and you will find someone.
My blog has been a wonderful way of meeting kind, friendly, encouraging, caring people all over the world. It has filled a gap in my life and I would miss it terribly if I stopped. It isn’t a substitute for a real life but as a virtual life it is pretty wonderful.
Please draw support and very warm thoughts from me, even though you don’t know who I am. You have many online friends I can tell and they are all wishing you well and hoping to hear more of your funny warm take on life and your expertise and advice. I hope you will feel better soon, you are a great guy. I can tell.
Diane
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#43 by Ingrid at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby, I am sorry you are hurting. I have struggled with depression myself, so I know how dark things can seem sometimes. I am sorry you have lost the joy of blogging. I hope that you can regain it, so we can all continue to spend time with you on the blogosphere. But if you don’t, I hope you move on to other things that will reignite the spark in you.
A virtual hug to you.
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#44 by Andrea at November 9th, 2007
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As so many others have tried, I’m trying again to leave a comment. Please get in touch, I’m concerned about you. We have spoken about that women and I’d like to help if I can.
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#45 by Robin Sardini at November 9th, 2007
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Many of us tried to comment here earlier and were not able to so this is a test..
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#46 by paisley at November 9th, 2007
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so then start over,, try something new.. be you,, quite all the techie bullshit and for god sake write!!!!! i know you can do it,, i have read tour stuff… you are too tightly strung emotionally not to let that shit out on paper.. there are plenty of people out here who don’t give a rats ass about page ranks and following comments… we want to read you bobby… always have….
give it a break,, if your broken pour that shit out on paper.. then you’ll know who your real friends are……..
XXOO
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#47 by Lynda at November 9th, 2007
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Hi Bobby! I am sorry that you are feeling the weight of such pain. It is not a good place to be. I know as I have had more than my share of pain and lovelessness. Please, do me a favor and do not retreat into the pain. I would like to talk with you about this, I know I can shed some light on the situation. If not, I will pray for you, I will uplift you with my thoughts, I will comfort you with my spirit, and, I will hold your tears as you cry…
Please, it is important that you do not dwell in the pain. Release it. I know it is difficult, but, I also know for sure, that it can be done… You are not alone, there are many people here who truly care about you. You are loved, respected, admired, and, considered a major player in the blogworld. Do not turn your back on all that you have worked so hard to build. Accept the love which is given to you, it is REAL love. It is unconditional love. It is love from the heart, and, not the mind…
I would really like to tell you some things which would show you that heartbreak does heal and go away. Maybe it doesn’t seem like it now, and, perhaps every now and again it returns, but, it DOES heal and get easier to deal with over time.
Know this, you deserve REAL love. Real love is not tainted with pain. It is joy, happiness, and, total commitment, it is something which will not let you down… You will find this kind of love, believe me, please, believe me, you will… And when you find it, you will know what I speak of. You will see that dwelling in the pain of love gone bad was not worthwhile.
I am sorry, I do not mean to go on and on, but Bobby, please, do not return to the darkness of pain and depression. It will subside if you allow it to. It will only make it worse, worse, if you succumb to it.
Take a short break, but, do NOT succumb to its full weight. We care for you and do not want to see you suffer. Please, we are here for YOU! Know it, believe it, feel it, and, grasp onto it, reach out for US, as we truly love and care for YOU!!!…
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#48 by Lynda at November 9th, 2007
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Bobby, we LOVE you! Please, do not succumb to that pain and suffering! Please, know that it will get better, you only have to allow the pain to subside… I have so much to tell you, I know so much about dealing with this, but, since I cannot, know that I will pray for you, my thoughts will uplift you, my spirit will hold the tears you shed…
You are respected, admired, and, considered a top contender here in the blogworld, please do not throw it all away, there are people here who need your loving self around.
Do not succumb to the darkness of the pain, please. I understand about being burnt out and about the pain at times overwhelming you, but, honestly, you will get through it and TRUE love will find you, I am certain of this. It takes time, it takes belief and faith. it takes a mindset of I CAN OVERCOME THIS and I will find REAL love one day… Many of us are alone, and we manage it, as we have not relinquished to the pain… Yes, it is difficult, it is terrible, it can be as bad as we allow it to be, but, we can get through it, we can heal, and, we most certainly CAN find love which will never forsake us. Love is here waiting for you, so many of us love YOU! who knows what will come of the love shared here in the blogworld. Please, do not give up. Take a break and come back to our open arms and minds, we will uplift you and we will stand steadfast with you while you heal, which you will, I promise, you only have to allow yourself to… I am sorry to go on and on, but, I have so much to offer in this situation and since I cannot, I don’t know exactly where to draw the line…
We LOVE YOU BOBBY, know that, and, come back to us, we are waiting with genuine love for you…. Take care and understand that love will come again… Especially to someone like you, you are a fine person, don’t ever forget that, ok?
Lots of hugs, prayers and best wishes forever… Lyn
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#49 by Beth at November 9th, 2007
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Come back, Bobby. You have friends, because jon at Chimeric Day Dreams is worried and sent his readers over here.
I too suffer from depression, and am just out of a long tough stretch; I was unable to work for 10 months after the death of my mother.
Ride through the tough spots, because on the other side of that heavy pain is also lightness and love, work and joy. I’ve been on that dark side of the depression so many times, and it always passes in a few days or months. I’ve not been able to see it when I’m stuck in the middle of it.
I know; sometimes it’s so bad, and it’s impossible to describe.
Pick up the telephone and call your local crisis line, get to a doctor, get some help.
Please.
I can say these kinds of things, because I’m a grandma and that’s the kind of thing we grandmas do.
But I’ve also been unable to pull myself out of bed.
Please know there’s a middle-aged lady who’s been in her own kind of pain.
And know that I am pulling for you.
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#50 by Sue Bride at November 9th, 2007
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I certainly hope you do come back and very soon! You have come through your depression before and you will again. Keep telling yourself that.
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