Revellian Revelations - Double Standards
One thing that’s been going on lately that I don’t like is that cash bloggers are using social networking to gain links and “make friends” at the same time. Just by saying that, some bloggers will get mad and not like me. See…the thing is, bloggers aren’t supposed to say bad things about other bloggers. Is it wrong? I want to share my “Revellian Revelations” with you.
If I said that blogger 1 is using people to make money and his so-called friendships are fake - mere social manipulation to make money, all his friends will say, “How dare you say that. Some people have nothing better to do than put others down to make themselves feel high and mighty!”
This will destroy friendships…even if it is true! If I started a site that judged others…I would be hated. If I handed out “Worst Blog On Earth” awards to famous bloggers, people would despise me. If I said, “This blogger is the most prolific liar and genius at social manipulation for self gain - the Hitler of blogging!” I would be shunned by all…even if it were true!
Double Standards
This defines the double standard in blogging, just as in life. If I did these things, I would be the scum of the blogosphere. However, If I made a million dollars doing it…I would be cool. I would be worshiped, with thousands of fans. I would get richer as I became more ruthless.
It’s like in real life, with famous movie stars. Johnny Depp was a heroin addict at one point in his life…this only adds to his mystique, increasing his marketability, especially with female fans. Normal people don’t have the same luxury! If Billy Joe from nowhereville, USA were an ex-heroin addict, what girl would find that sexy?
Imagine her telling mom, “Well mom…he doesn’t shoot up heroin any more!” It would be different if his name were Johnny Depp…wouldn’t it? One of the most ruthless mass murderers in history is Alexander the Great. Because he was successful…he is looked up to by people worldwide! Hitler was not successful…therefore he is hated by all people.
The difference between an insane murderer and a beloved leader is measured by success…particularly by monetary success. If there was ever a person that should be called an “anti-christ”…it is Alexander the Great. However, great leaders all throughout history look up to him as the greatest. The truth is, Alexander made Hitler look like a punk by comparison!
Take for example, the actor Colin Farrell. He has herpes (according to Halle Berry). Do you know how many women he has given herpes to? He sleeps with girl after girl…leaving them behind as soon as he pulls his pants up…yet this makes him a sexy bad boy…hahahaha!!!!
If I become a famous rock star, I want to infect myself with hepatitis-C from Pamela Anderson just like Tommy Lee and Kid Rock. Imagine how disgusting these people are! The baddest bad boy finally bedding the sluttiest slut!!!! This is what the world considers to be news…OMG…I think I’m going to puke.
How Do You Measure Success?
Is success measured only by money or fame? What do you think? How does this double standard play out among bloggers? I am just making some observations about things. I don’t have anything against Johnny Depp, in case you were wondering.
Some bloggers make money through PPP and Smorty while being a real friend with other bloggers. Personally, I see a big difference between bloggers like this, than true money bloggers using social networking to use people for their friendships. Do you see the same difference?
Most of my blogger buddies make some extra money but they are true friends and I respect that. However, I do not respect these bloggers who are on the verge of being huge…who join every social network to further their quest for financial gain.
It’s just like the example of famous people I used earlier. Once you become famous, you get famous friends. Many will leave their old friends behind. We often see bloggers who become big do the same thing. That’s why I don’t want to be big. Big money changes many people in bad ways.
That’s not to say money and success cannot be handled with true integrity. Many rich people are super nice, caring human beings. Therefore…my goal in life is to remain my true self regardless of what happens or doesn’t happen. To me…success is not something I choose to measure. Who am I to measure the success of someone else. Success is different for different people!!!!
Goals For 2008
My goals for this new year are simple, as placing unrealistic expectations on myself are not healthy. I want to nurture the wonderful friendships I have. I want to be there for any of you that ever need a friend. Also, I want to remove all resentments in my life, especially those directed towards my deceased father.
It’s not my job to judge others, other people can do that. Judging people, sizing people up and holding grudges is bad. These are some of the things I will strive for in 2008!!!!!
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Good Post, good luck with your goals.
You wouldn’t risk catching hepatitis c if you had a chance to sleep with Pamela A.? 
Hallos Bobby!
A very original and honest post. I agree with your views. The measure of success is very subjective. And in many ways very independent of values pertaining to one’s character.
As you very well know, I really don’t know much about making money using the blog or pagerank thing. But you know the biggest achievement of my blog so far? Hee Hee .. Don’t laugh at me ok. I put up a post on National Treasures to get free tickets for a Premiere for National Treasures II screening here in Singapore. I did that because my hubby likes Nicholas Cage and enjoyed National Treasures Part I.
On a side note, I am very happy to see the state you are in now. I have been visiting your site not as often as in the past. (I have not done that to any other sites as well!) But rest assured that your is always one of my all time favourite sites. I guess such friendships that has developed over the virtual world is worth valuing many times more than whatever my pagerank is. It’s like the two best friends of mine since I was twelve years old. I have known them for more than 20years!! But we rarely keep in touch due to our busy life styles. Yet we would make effort to meet at least once a year during the Chinese New Year to catch up on one another. Even at such a frequency that we see one another, when the word Best Friend is mentioned — Their faces are the ones that pop up in my mind.
Blessings Bobby!
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Bobby, what happened to your shout box? Can you please put it up again?
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Hi Karen!!! I used to have a friend who tried to get me to play golf at expensive courses so we could become friends with rich, influential people….I thought he was extremely shallow for even thinking that way. He looked down on me for not going. If someone has cancer, their measure of success is merely staying alive. If someone makes a billion dollars per year and is famous, they are no more important than any other person…except in the eyes of the mass public!!!!
I haven’t seen National Treasure…it doesn’t look that great, but I am a fan of Nicholas Cage…and who knows, maybe I would like it
All of my lifelong best friends…I had to sever ties with ALL of them. They are all using drugs and I cannot hang around people who might get me in trouble. I hardly know a single person who doesn’t use drugs and that is sad…but I have to look out for myself even though they blame me…they can choose friendship or drugs…they cannot have both with me.
I never took it down Karen…I think it doesn’t always appear, I don’t know why
No Cufflinks…I wouldn’t. Pamela Anderson is a grotesque woman…definitely not my type…she is a plastic barbie doll
Bobby, I know I have told you how happy I am to see you posting again, now you are back just like before.. better than before I hope.. hehehe..
Your goal in 2008 is sweet, you really put friendship in a treasure! *hugs* I am sure you have all love from your friends as well… God bless your kind heart Bobby…
You are one of my good friends Trinity, it has been really nice to have you here and shining your light everywhere you go
Have a fantastic 2008 
I think that the hardest thing to do is to preserve our core values through our evolution in this life. That’s my goal, - to preserve the core values I had when I came in screaming into this world. That double standard is real.
For me, blogging success is measured by the quality of your friends. Great post Bobby.
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Good goals for 2008, Bobby! Thank you for being such a good friend. Here’s wishing you all the best and Happy New Year!
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All in all, you are definitely right. i wouldn’t touch her with a 10 foot pole
I think people are just attracted to those that already appear to be successful. Maybe there is an air of greatness about them, I don’t know what it is but it’s true, if somebody is famous or wealthy, they have an easier time having their own opinion.
I signed up at some paid posting sites yesterday but I feel a bit uncomfortable with it…I don’t think that it will go down well on my blog. it’s a hard line to distinguish between using a blog and readers out of greed and trying to use what you have to justify spending time blogging…
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Hey Bobby,
There was a point in time, where I wanted to totally bring down some bloggers (still do), especially the ones that I thought had good intentions, but I really just turned out to be a dollar sign to them. I wrote this post, and decided to hold back, mainly because all the bloggers are sooo damn nice! I couldn’t bring myself to rock the boat (which is very unlike me), and deal with the aftermath of the people I did like, having to choose sides, or give me crap for my opinion. The good in the majority of bloggers, sucks out the awful things I want to say about the bad ones.
I guess thats a good thing.
Anyway, good post. Good luck in 2008!
Hi Brown Baron! I agree 100%…I can’t change my core values even if I tried to…that’s why I am a terrible salesman. I find myself completely unable to avoid seeing the truth in life…sometimes I wish I had been born a heartless person - I’d be much more successful.
I know how to make big money blogging, what I would need to do to make that happen is what keeps me from going through with it…I just can’t do it
Thanks Emila…you have been so nice to me, I smile every time I think of you. Happy New Year to you too
I wouldn’t let it get to me if I were you…there is absolutely nothing wrong with making a little extra money. It’s the person you are inside that makes the difference. There is a big difference between making money in the way you are doing it and being a pure money blogger using friendships to add to your mailing list.
I can’t change other people’s opinions but I sometimes wish others could see things through my eyes. I don’t want to hurt anyone or their reputations. I don’t see any virtue in making money but that has always been a problem for me. Thanks Ed…Happy 2008
Hello Birthday Boy!!!
Revellian Revelations sounds so cool! Hmmm, I wonder when I’ll be famous and have famous friends lolz…. For now, u and all the rest are my famous friends and you guys will always have a place in my heart for showing me support right from the beginning.
Have a good 2008 Bobby! Love and hugs on ur special day all the way from Malaysia!
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Thanks Marzie
What a sweet comment!!!! You are making me smile really big and maybe even giggle a little too. It’s really nice to have you as my friend…Happy 2008 
Hi Bobby,
I am just popping by to wish you the healthiest, happiest, New Year, and good luck with all of your goals for 2008.
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Bobby, its your BIRTHDAY?
Happy Birthday to you & may all your wishes came true.
Happy New year to you too
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MARVELOUS post, Bobby!!! Touche, touche, touche!!!
I haven’t been in the blogosphere that long, but I really like your points he he he he…Gladly I think most of the people I’ve met in the blogosphere are nice ones who’re really into friendship. Even though now I’ve started blogging for money, I hope all my blogging friends know that I cherish my friendship with them.
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Oh, and one more thing…I also agree with you that the measure of success is very different for everybody. How do I measure success? Hmmm…by making someone smile, by encouraging someone, making someone feel supported or understood, by being a shoulder to cry on even when I can’t give any advice or input, things like that.
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