Comments on: Sadness – Severing Toxic Friendships

By: Bobby Revell

Bobby Revell — Sat, 23 May 2009 20:52:01 +0000

Thanks Tammy, I did get over it all though! There is nothing wrong with an occasional drink and I personally oppose the harsh penalties imposed by the current drug laws in America. Even though I do not do anything illegal, I still believe all drugs should be decriminalized in favor of treatment. If a young person gets one felony drug charge, their entire life is ruined and that is wrong in my view.

It was painful to drop every friend I grew up and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Thanks for reading:)

By: Tammy-Cricket

Tammy-Cricket — Sat, 23 May 2009 07:23:05 +0000

Wow…what a huge inspirational story in which I will encourage my teen to read. I am sorry Bobby that you have dealt with all of this pain throughout your life.

It is so true that a situation is so hard to walk out of sometimes. I don’t drink often and never in front of my children. I have never even tried a drug. However, I have lived in a unhealthy life for many years that has been almost impossible to walk away from.

I can better understand where all this power and energy comes from in relation to your writing.

Thank you for sharing.

By: Revellian

Revellian — Fri, 01 May 2009 10:30:05 +0000

Thanks for reading QquandAnAn! Sometimes you have to do things like that. It’s never pleasant, but you have to take care of yourself:)

By: QqandAnAn

QqandAnAn — Fri, 01 May 2009 10:19:08 +0000

I agree with what you have said in your entry although my experience was slightly different from yours. I just severed a 18-year-long friendship with my best friend and although I feel very upset over it I realise it is a MUST if I have to protect myself.

By: Revellian

Revellian — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 21:01:39 +0000

Thank you for reading Denise. One thing, this is not to say that all people who use drugs or drink aren’t worth being friends with–though many become overtaken and severely addicted and could become toxic. If a relationship of any kind is destroying your life, it’s often best to end it completely and move on (without remorse). We have to take care of ourselves and lookout for number one. Some decisions sure hurt but when you can make them, you become wiser and stronger. I’ll help anyone, but I’m not going to ruin my own life in doing so. Have a great day!

By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 13:11:23 +0000

Dear Bobby,

THANK YOU SO MUCH for this blog which I just came upon. I have been praying about all this.This month of February, I have severed four toxic friendships (they too are drinkers and druggies – I drink but don’t do drugs): My boyfriend, and three other friends. They all treated me like crap but I was always SO there for them. My true best friend that lives in cocoa beach, since we were 16 (I’m 49 now!)had been urging me to do this for quite some time. She is an angel. I feel so much better now, in control of myself, and yes it hurts, but as I inferred from you, it’s the good kind of hurt. God bless you!

By: Revellian

Revellian — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 22:41:11 +0000

Sounds like you and I have been in a similar situation Mick. I had to get professional help, but I am a much happier person for it. I would help any of my old friends if they ever wanted it

By: The moaning blogger

The moaning blogger — Tue, 22 Jul 2008 17:41:18 +0000

Revellian, i have to say that you made the right choices, i myself have grown up with nearly all my friends being drug users or alcoholics, i myself took drugs and alcohol for years, now i don’t touch anything either and i also have to avoid all my friends who are still on stuff, i didn’t think i’d be able to do it but im glad to say that i am much happier now, i feel that my life is my own and i feel so much more positive, any type of drugs even alcohol is bad. Mick…

By: Revellian

Revellian — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 23:50:14 +0000

@Euro: Thanks! I’m not having computer problems, just problems with my host’s server.

@Matt: That’s quite a nightmare you had. I understand why you went the straight path!

@Bokjae: Thanks you! I’ll come see!

@Karen: Thanks! This post was good therapy for me.

@Gypsy: Thanks for the compliment on my design! True friendship is hard to come by, and I choose them very wisely.

@Ana: I actually lost that post and comments when I restored my site onto another server, but I did read the comment you left me…thanks! When people tell their war stories, they often leave the end off. I know people who’ll brag about all the drugs they’ve done, but they do it to give themselves a gangster persona or to be cool. They should carry it out, telling how it destroyed them, caused horrible problems and wrecked lives. If it’s a story worth hearing, they’ll tell you how they changed and make it something inspiring and powerful. That was my goal with this. I don’t even look down on my ex-freinds, and I would help them if they ever needed it

By: Monavie

Monavie — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 17:10:26 +0000

Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same – this is from a song by The Fray. I think you did the best thing you could for your life. That doesn’t mean it was easy or that you don’t miss your friend and your old life. I used to hang around friends that liked to party and drink heavily under age, and they started getting into drugs. Although I never did, they still weren’t a good influence on my life and I’m better off now. Just hang in there!