I first met Sabrina in the winter of 2003–accidentally and when I least expected. I spent a few afternoons per week in the International House of Pancakes for lunch, not because I loved it, but for convenience; close to campus and a pleasurable beach walk, becoming a quiet place of solace. I was emotionally shattered–the word lonely tattooed across my forehead . . . was it that obvious?
She was an IHOP waitress not exceedingly beautiful, but sweet with a bright smile and gentle aura. She talked to me several times and began sitting with me, timing her breaks to join me in warm conversation but I never really noticed her. Over a period of weeks, I opened up to her and believed torturous painted our discussion–she listened attentively as I told her about my ex-girlfriend.
She said, “You’re such a noble and deep guy. I know you need someone and someone needs you.”
“I hate being desperate . . . it radiates off me. Too needy.”
“No. Not desperate, but kind and loving.”
She reached out and folded her silken fingers into mine; it happened. I noticed her for the first time like a young boy on Christmas morning–the aroma of apple pie, roasted chestnuts–scintillating reverberations spreading wildly–blossoming tentacles through the fabric of my heart. She kissed my hand and at that very moment, I fell in love with the girl it took a month to heed . . . who she truly was.
During this unforgettable span, I poured my soul–filling her spiritual pool with the story of me, but I didn’t know the slightest detail of her. Scared . . . yes; animal lust . . . yes. Her almost homely plainness became a radiant flower; the sound of her voice, her perfume and I wanted her–but that want became need and she knew it. She could taste it. Perhaps I had allowed myself to be languid, falling all over her, dreaming about her . . . fantasizing myself to sleep every night. She permeated my being . . . I had yet to even kiss her.
I was afraid to say how I felt. Through experience, maybe a reinforcement of bad or unintuitive behavior, I desired to traverse a fresh approach–unexplored territory. My percipience led me to allow a relationship to flourish naturally . . . a tacit attraction, an implied desire unimpeded by too many details–more intention than specific. A real romance I had so longed for.
She had graduated from college and quit her IHOP job, but still met me there. Our romantic conferences became so intense and wondrous, I wanted to preserve us together–locked in time. She said, “I have never in my life met anyone like you, I simply want to be with you all the time. You actually listen to me. You not only love my silly poetry, we converse so eloquently. I have allowed you within my deepest chasm . . . places no other man has enjoyed with me.”
Still, I refrained from taking action until the night of February 5th 2003. We met on the beach beneath tangerine moonlight–embraced by salty breeze. She brought a bottle of Chateau Cheval Blanc St. Emilion Grand Cru 1990, an astonishingly sweet red wine with a voluptuously-textured finish given to her by her grandfather–she said to celebrate our friendship.
I felt a surmounting pressure–feeling almost nauseous . . . my hands trembling. Had I fallen in the friend zone? I demanded an inner faith from the clutches of my heart and told myself no. Our gazes locked, the impending lure of our first kiss loomed heavily–foreshadowing our stellar evening together. Our lips gently grazed . . . a full kiss ensued, my soul soaring through the temple of heaven as I said, “I love you Sabrina,” tears trickling down my cheeks. She pulled away and that familiar look inscribed her face . . . I was beyond mortified.
“What’s wrong Sabrina?”
“Oh Bobby,” she cried, “I don’t know what I’m doing.” I tried to hug her but she rejected me with totalitarian intent. Tears gushing forth . . . both of us shivering in pain.
“I have to tell you something Bobby.”
“What? Whatever it is . . . we can work through it.”
“Not this.”
“What is is it? I love you like I’ve never loved before.”
“I am married. My husband is graduating from medical school tomorrow, and I am pregnant. I am so sorry.”
She stood up . . . an iron wall of realization slammed between us, severing every connection with the coldness of iced razor. Her tears dried and an internal decision had been written in blood. She was over me with lighting velocity.
“We can never speak again.”
“Please tell me one thing Sabrina,” sobbing on my knees, “Did you ever feel anything? Do you love me? Did you once feel love this whole time?”
“I don’t know.”
She walked away, sliding into her car and drove away into the blackness of marital bliss . . . and never turned her head to see me one last time–leaving me a crumpled soul of desolation shivering in hellish agony–an empty shell of lost hope who somehow must get up once more and seek the love I so want. Needless to say, I do not believe in implied love . . . or tacit attraction; still, I do believe in love.



#1 by Mitchell Allen at December 30th, 2008
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That story resonates like a melancholy mental bell.
I know you eventuaally got over Sabrina, but sometimes, late at night, unable to sleep …
Why do we allow this to happen to ourselves?
I’ve always wondered if it would ruin things by forcing the issue: Squeezing the imp out if licit.
By forestalling that moment, it either heightens the glorious high of new love, or worsens the distraught feeling of “never meant to be.”
On a lighter note, hunt her down and stomp-kick her for leading you on like that!
Happy New Year!
Mitch
#2 by Revellian at December 30th, 2008
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Thanks for reading Mitch! There’s no magic formula for love, and even with devastating loss, it’s still worth pursuing. Every time I believe I have something in life figured out, I am humbled by my own vacuous mind. I shall refrain from stomp-kicking her in the face LOL!!!
#3 by Francis Scudellari at December 30th, 2008
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I’ve pretty much given up on love, but still fall victim to the temptation to believe every now and again (which always ends with reality hitting me like an icy cold splash in the face). This story resonated on a few levels.
Changing subject … happy birthday!
#4 by Revellian at December 30th, 2008
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Thanks Francis, that means a lot to me!
Love seems to me a lost cause at times, but I can handle whatever happens. I have to believe in something because the alternative doesn’t look too good.
#5 by Jesse at December 31st, 2008
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Dang Sabrina…give me her number and I will give her the tongue-lashing she deserves!! Not only a tongue-lashing,but some other lashing as well. I hate deception in a relationship.It causes pain and wastes everyones time. Why some people do these things to others is beyond me.Its always best to be honest from the start,that way there are no scary surprizes.
Now,if this is a true story from your own life,its just one of those things that happen,and obviously in hindsite we learn a lot from such pain.Exactly what we learn is up to us…our own personality.I know that you are still able to feel love and havent become a jaded old wretch,lol…thats the best thing
#6 by waterlearner at December 31st, 2008
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Yozz Bobby!
Just here to say Happy New Year! How are you doing??
#7 by waterlearner at December 31st, 2008
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Happy Happy New Year!!!
#8 by maketraffic at December 31st, 2008
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Happy New year, Bobby!
May 2009 bring joy, health and prosperity to you and your family
Cheers!
Maketraffic
#9 by Mariuca at December 31st, 2008
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May this New Year bring you more love, joy and success. HAPPY 2009!
Wishing on a Falling Star
Mariuca’s Perfume Gallery
#10 by Mariuca at December 31st, 2008
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It’s already the 31st here Bobby so HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope u have a wonderful day and I am sending u lotsa love and hugs as well!
:):)
#11 by mmo at December 31st, 2008
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sorry to hear…but time does heal all wounds. Love is a funny thing…chocolate releases similar receptors in the brain! crazy stuff
#12 by teeni at December 31st, 2008
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Oh, that was sad. I hope it isn’t a true story. I can’t believe someone would string someone else along like that for so long without feeling some type of love or strong feelings for the other person. Well, I CAN believe it, but I don’t want to. Know what I mean? And what’s this? Is it your birthday? You know I wish you the happiest of birthdays and a new year filled with love, laughter, good health, and good fortune!
Hugs to you, Bobby!
#13 by Michelle Gartner at December 31st, 2008
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Wow- I was not expecting it to go that way… I am not sure what to say. I’ll have to think about this. There are so many questions running through my brain now.
How about I just say Happy New Year’s Eve to you
and
smooches
Now go collect more kisses on New Year’s tonight and tell us all about it… we all love it when you kiss and tell.
#14 by paisley at December 31st, 2008
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just dropping in to say happy new year… thanks for always being there,, and just being you!!!!!
#15 by Selma at January 1st, 2009
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Your imagery was so beautiful, so poetic.
How could there not be a happy ending under tangerine moonlight?
Such a poignant tale. I am sorry it didn’t work out.
Wishing you all the best for the New Year.
#16 by Eric "Speedcat Hollydale" at January 1st, 2009
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If I have learned anything over my years on this planet, it’s that there are very few “truly honest” people. I went through similar circumstances when I was younger too.
While I don’t think of myself as cold, or reserved, I think I am much more analytical and perceiving now.
When in school … (enrolled in school) I had a roomate. It was just a small place a few miles from NEI. My girlfriend of 8 months all of a sudden started talking about moving in. WITH MY ROOMATE! I was completely blown away, and sick inside. Here I thought of these people as friends. The shock of this event still bothers me, because I was so wrong about so many things.
On a happier note, I want to wish you a bright and happy new year Bobby. Just as life can throw you curve balls into the dirt, it also affords the perfect pitch now and again. The greatest moments are only as good as the past we compare them to
#17 by Revellian at January 1st, 2009
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@Jesse: Should I have aggressively tried to sleep with her from day one until either she did or called the cops? LOL! I actually knew what was going to happen (kind of) but it was just one of those twilight zone occurrences. I’m a totally different person now.
@Karen: Well howdy Karen! Happy new year to you!
@Maketraffic: Thanks! Have a great new year!
@Marzie: Thank you Marzie! Maybe I’ll get enough time off work to enjoy it hahaha! Happy new year!
@MMO: Looking back, it took only a few weeks to revive, but it was rather disturbing.
@Teeni: Yes Teeni, it is basically true. I admit I wrote it in a slightly romantic voice, I mean people don’t really speak that way do they? I hope the good fortune part comes true first. Happy new year!
@Michelle: I think she was just trying to have a little fun before she settled into her marriage while her husband was mostly away at school and it went too far. I would feel better about it had she slept with me hahaha! I would say live and learn but I’m not psychic. Smooches? You married women . . . I swear! Happy new year!
@Jodi: Happy new year! I must write a bizarre story with you soon!
@Selma: Thanks so much! OK…maybe there wasn’t tangerine moonlight, but I had to take a few artistic liberties to balance the agony. Happy new year!
@Eric: I hear you! Nowadays, I break up first. If they break up with me I say, “Whew . . . thank God, I thought this was gonna drag on forever.” Your roommate? I hate when that happens. My policy is to never introduce a woman to any guy I know. My guy friends know better…I can be quite moody LOL! Happy new year!
#18 by Jennifer at January 1st, 2009
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When I was reading for this for the second time, I had another blog open with a soundtrack: Love Will Tear Us Apart (Joy Division).
She totally led you on. But the best thing about being a writer is that you get to frame the story, to make her into a character in your narrative. Which you’ve done quite well.
Happy new year, by the way. We’ve just had 8 (or is it 9?) days of family visits followed up by illness. So I’m slowly catching up with blogs.
#19 by J.C. at January 2nd, 2009
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I would have too agree with Eric on this one: Experience if what makes all the difference. The same thing is with love, at least in my case. I was never analytical or rational when it comes to that crucial issue of our existence. But I guess, that’s the ingredient that makes it all so special.
The story was great and melancholic too.
#20 by Miss Moneypenny at January 2nd, 2009
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OMG… a PG Romance Break-up without blood and Dead Zone horror?
Did you turn over a new leaf for the New Year?
Happy New Year!
#21 by Genie Princess at January 4th, 2009
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Hi Bobby, read ur story and I understand the pain of missing what could have been. Worry not for a brand new year is here and who knows this might be the year u fall in love for real and forever! Big Hugs!
:):)
#22 by Revellian at January 5th, 2009
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@Jennifer: What a strange coincidence. This was one of my last experiences still believing and still idealistic about love. Somewhere down the road I lost that idealism and am less easy to be torn apart. Thanks so much and happy new year to you too!
@J.C. Thanks! Experience has made it extremely difficult to trust, and I have a lot of experience–sometimes I wish I didn’t. Love is what’s missing in my life, and I sometimes wish I could just forget about it altogether.
@Debbie: I suppose this is PG, but nothing R rated to disclose. No new leaves here for the new year–my fig tree is bare. Happy new year to you Debbie!
@Marzie: Thanks for reading! I don’t think about what could have been, nor do I dwell on the past, but I do have a battle scarred heart. Love will have to find me because I am so tired of looking.
#23 by Melissa Donovan at January 5th, 2009
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Oh dear, are all the bloggers going to start blogging their love lives now? I’m sorry but I don’t think I can get on that particular train. But this was a great read! Maybe I’m old fashioned but I don’t understand stuff like this – taking a man to the beach with a bottle of wine when you’re attached to someone else… hm. Sounds dangerous.
#24 by EuroYank at January 5th, 2009
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Bobby there are so many fish in the sea, and some are not married or fishy. Sometimes its better to have the right worm and not a mouthful of pancakes!
#25 by Angela at January 5th, 2009
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What a beautifully written account! Thank you for sharing such vulnerabilities with us. I always have something to say about everything…but you have left me speechless with admiration for your beautiful soul!
#26 by Zen Lill at January 5th, 2009
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Hi Bobby, great story with excellent imagery, I was stunned she never disclosed her status and asked to continue on whatever level but I suspect you are correct, she was ’settling in to her marriage’ kind of you to say that though. All experiences make us who we are and yes, I would say you’d probably feel better if you’d have slept with her. I never regretted any of those experiences but I have been regretful about 2 that got away…
Is the word ’smooches’ reserved for married ladies, just curious, I never use that word but I like it, sounds like air kisses or something meant to be innocent but perhaps is not? hahaha…
Thanks for the read! Zen Lill
#27 by Dave Lucas at January 6th, 2009
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The lesson: be honest with everyone you encounter, even on the internet. Just like you and me, Bobby: we started out on the good foot but things went sour when I expressed certain beliefs. That’s water under the bridge now. I enjoy reading your blog and still hope that we can mend the broken fence and be friends. Whaddaya say?
#28 by meleah rebeccah at January 6th, 2009
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Bobby…when I first started reading this I thought this was going to be The Most Romantic love story of ALL TIMES. I cannot believe how it ended. How terribly painful.
*But I must say…this was written extremely well.*
#29 by Kate at January 6th, 2009
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Love will have to find me because I am so tired of looking.
Awww….
This was such an achingly good and simple love story that I clutched both hands to my heart at the end. Which is weird since I’m writing and reading murder these days.
This was such an excellent piece of writing. The story kept pulling me forward because perhaps on a subconscious level, I know what would inevitably happen but I still I kept reading, despite that till it ended (no pun intended). You’ve put me inside your head Bobby. Yes, you did and though the ubiquitous screen separates me from the full depth of your feelings, it has allowed me a brief glimmer of them.
#30 by Shemah at January 6th, 2009
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Oh how heartbreaking!! I was so deep into the story that I felt so heartbroken myself. I know I know, I am one of those naive people who always believes that love always has a happy ending.
I know what it’s like to hurt someone and be hurt as well, but then one thing that keeps us going for it, I believe, is hope. Hope that you will finally find someone that’s just perfect. Hope that you will be given a taste of happiness.
Anyways, shame on you, Sabrina!! LOL!
#31 by Jo at January 7th, 2009
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There is nothing so painful as a love for someone and it isn’t returned. I tell myself I will not let myself fall into that again, I don’t want the pain and tears and I kid myself everyday. Am sorry I missed your birthday, a belated but wishing you had a very Happy Birthday Bobby
#32 by EuroYank at January 9th, 2009
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FOR FIVE YEARS I have been blogging about these dark days. I have also known most bloggers would ignore the facts and blog anything but reality. More and more bloggers are abandoning their blogs and sinking into their usual fantasy world. Well the last laugh is on me. ha ha ha ….
#33 by Revellian at January 9th, 2009
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I apologize to everyone for taking so long to respond, I needed a break!
@Melissa: Haha…no, I’m not on a love life blogging kick, I just wanted to share this story because I saw Sabrina (not her real name). I almost added a murder scene to add a little excitement, but I’ll save that for pure fiction!
@Euro: I have been out with many married women when I was younger and braver (or just insane looking for trouble) haha!
@Angela: Thanks! Isn’t a real man supposed to be vulnerable? Or some people just call it weak or living in a fantasy world of romantic idealism. My idealism died a long time ago.
@Zen Lill: It seems like it’s a requirement to sleep with women on the first date, but these days I am fearful of catching something you can’t wash off LOL! I do understand women…they are nonunderstandable.
@Dave: No problem Dave! I hold no grudges and anything in the past was nothing more than silly ridiculousness. Consider all fences mended.
@Meleah: Thank you! All I can say is we had the most intense and wonderful conversations I’ve ever had–all that was missing was the physical contact. I’m sure her husband wouldn’t have approved. I actually saw them together in a grocery store…it was extremely awkward, but I did say hello hahaha!
@Kate: Thanks Kate! I’m going to be getting back to writing some extremely horrific murder stories myself…it’s such a great way to relieve stress. I’ll be by very soon!
@Shemah: Thank you!I’m just a sucker for old fashioned romance where people don’t have twisted agendas and are looking for something powerful and real. I still hope I find that one day!
@Jo: Thanks for the b-day wishes! Yeah, but no matter how wise you are, you can still get burned. I cannot give up hope on that one true love!
@Euro: The truth is, there’s really not much anyone can do about it. I know the truth about how the world works, but I cannot let it kill my spirit and destroy my life. I understand how you must feel. I’m basically a fiction writer and without my fantasy world, I would probably die from boredom!
#34 by Nina c. at January 18th, 2009
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I’m late reading this but that story was really beautiful. I know all to well how painful love can be and that captured it so much, while still being quietly beautiful.
#35 by Revellian at January 19th, 2009
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Aw…thanks Nina,the pain of love is one I’m always willing to risk. Maybe I’ll write about some of the good love I’ve have rather than the break ups