So we’re born as pure innocent children–blank slates with eager minds and sparkling eyes, filled with wonder and astonishment (if we’re lucky). Then we go to school and make friends. We don’t care what race, religion or whatever our friends are; too young to know anything, but smarter than any adult where it counts most.
We get a little older and the separation begins–the division, partition, divergence forked into endless segregative paths. The black kids hand separate from the white kids; geeks divorced from jocks and so forth. A little older and we are driven further apart by religion, more distance by race, body size (fat, skinny, ugly, weird, hot, fine, etc.) and then . . . we grow up. We learn to drive a thousand more asphyxiating wedges between us based on class, sexual preference, who your family is, how much money you have–by the time we’re into our early twenties we become “mature” separatists conforming our lives to every ridiculous form of separatist identification possible.
Toss politics in the mix and you have modern society–a strangled blood-knot of hatred where humans divide themselves in every possible way.
I went bowling with a large group from work. I arrived early–myself and another started our lane, filling in names and getting a ball. Within thirty minutes, I looked up and all white people were in two lanes–one Vietnamese girl asked me if she could be in my group (I suppose she felt more “white” than black). All the black people played together . . . separate from the whites. I could barely believe my eyes and it ruined my fun time. How sad it was. All adults who all knew each other . . . disunited by skin color.
Animals are smarter than people. Throw a thousand dogs in a room and what happens? Do the brown dogs form a group segregated from the gray dogs? Spotted dogs forming a gang? Remaining mixes lost in despair? It’s as dumb as humans dividing among hair color/thickness. Imagine a human saying, “I don’t associate with brown haired people, they are untrustworthy.”
Want an accurate microcosm of human society? Toss a thousand prisoners in a huge cell. What happens? We already know. We divide ourselves first by race, then by religion, by sexual preference and on and on. You would think, in 2009 with powerful technology and the wisdom of history, all these idiotic divisions would be a well forgotten memory–but racism is alive and well. You may say, “Well you’re talking about criminals, what do they know? They are scum.”
I hate to tell you 99% of the criminals are NOT in jail, they are free; in your family, your friends, your coworkers, your neighbors. I’d say the prison model is an explicitly accurate reflection of truth in society.
We should celebrate being alive, being human beings–not what color our skin is, where we are from, our religion or lack thereof and everything else. I don’t celebrate my “whiteness” or my “Americanism” (though I do understand I’m not a minority and can’t pretend to know how some feel)–I’m just a human being from Earth just like everyone else. Let us rid the world of separatism and become the intelligent beings we’re supposed to be. And don’t let me get started on war. All war is stupid and childish. I support no war unless purely defensive . . . period. Also, I reject the entire notion of political ideology–liberal, conservative–just more ways to divide us. All political beliefs are flawed. Wake up and see the truth.
ALL RELIGIONS, RACES, CREEDS, GENDER, POLITICS, SEXUAL PREFERENCE, GEOGRAPHIC LOCATION–ALL PEOPLE ARE WELCOME HERE ON MY BLOG AND ALWAYS WILL BE.
I can’t believe I feel like I need to say this, but it’s how I feel.



#1 by Shameka at January 15th, 2009
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I totally understand. A few days ago I felt the need to express the same sentiment. As an individual “of color” I feel the need to briefly explain why I segregate myself sometimes and why you are correct with your assumtion that you’ll never know how it feels.
Remember your first day at your workplace…
Were you nervous or did you worry that your co-workers would judge you and/or your work based on your race?
The history of racism in this country has scarred the Black American psyche. I am cautious of anyone I meet that does not share my race because racism now isn’t as blatant as it was only one generation ago. Laws may change overnight, but attitudes do not. Knowing that makes me more inclined to casually socialize with people that look like me because I feel like they will not have hidden judgements about me based solely on my race. I think it is safe to assume that your co-workers had similar feelings.
You should ask them about it…
#2 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Hi Shameka,
No, I’ve never had a job where I worried about being judged by my skin color–on the other hand I have been harshly judged for many other separatist reasons like religion, class, education and so forth–perhaps a small cry from racism, but it did kill friendships, got me fired and cost me love relationships. This is one reason I almost despise money and becoming like the people who have lots of it–a complex causing me to look down on the rich in a way–revolted in a sense because of my scarred psyche.
I have talked to my coworkers, but most say, “That’s just the way it is.” I neither look up or down to anyone. I would treat the president like a homeless crackhead and a homeless crackhead like the president–honestly in the deepest trenches of my soul as we’re all are human beings. Thanks for commenting here and it’s wonderful to meet you!
#3 by WaterLearner at January 16th, 2009
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Hallos Bobby!
How are you doing?
I agree with your fervent belief we are all the same. Regardless of all differences.
#4 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Hi Karen,
I’m doing well. To me–just saying it is meaningless just like this article, but I do believe in what I wrote. It’s nice to hear from you!
#5 by Joh at January 16th, 2009
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I once took a job because the motto was “Everyone is Welcome”. It wasn’t long though before the committee of that non-profit organisation started discussing people who weren’t welcome… it’s a sad world isn’t it?
I like your blog because all are welcome.
#6 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Hi Joh, it is my opinion that 99% of every “non-profit” organization is corrupted and sympathetic to certain political ideologies–where there’s money, there’s corruption–all it takes is the first seed to be watered with payoffs.
The world is filled with this stuff, but as individuals, we can remain free of such and be honest. I wish things were so easy to solve in the real world.
#7 by Jane Doe at January 16th, 2009
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It is sad how we divide ourselves and set ourselves apart from those different from us. Though I have very strong, passionate opinions, I try not to let those opinions determine who my friends are. My best friend is a Christian conservative.
There is so much that we can learn from those who are different from us. So many rich cultures and beliefs that can enlighten us and bring us wisdom. I think that’s part of why I don’t necessarily adhere to any one religion, all forms of spirituality have something to teach us, they all contain their own wisdom and it is a shame that so many close their minds to other forms of spirituality and cling so steadfastly to the dogma of their chosen religion. When I was a Christian I was instructed by my fellow Christians to never, ever read anything from a non Christian source lest my faith be destroyed by the devil. All I could think was, is faith so weak that it can be so easily destroyed simply by reading another opinion? Can one not have a faith that embraces all forms of spirituality?
I firmly believe that spirituality can bring us comfort and peace, though I think that organized religions have done everything possible to destroy spirituality in the name of religious dogma and political control.
Anyway, I’ll quit rambling now. This was a wonderful post. Thanks for sharing!
#8 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Yes Jane, you do have really strong opinions, but you are really friendly and treat everyone in a great way–that’s what I like about you most. Though I do reject all religion, I do respect it and have my own view of faith and God. I always thought all religion was supposed to be about love, acceptance of people and being kind–but in the real world, it doesn’t always work that way.
Yes, we can have faith that embraces all forms of spirituality, which is basically where I’m at. I am extremely spiritual, but not religious. One thing we see eye to eye on is the separation of church and state–on that I am unbreakable. I suppose in a sense I am liberal, though I don’t call myself that. I’m more of a “humanist” I suppose. The simpler the belief the better.
Thanks for rambling here, I love it!
#9 by Jane Doe at January 16th, 2009
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Aww, thanks Bobby, ya made me blush! As to religion being about love, acceptance, etc. that’s what I thought too. It amazes me the number of people, for instance, that claim Jesus as their God, yet hate so thoroughly and so completely. I really don’t think he would condone such hatred. I don’t think any God would.
And yes, definite separation of church and state!! Religion has no place in the government. None! I love the button that says ‘Religious groups should stay out of politics…or be taxed!’
#10 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Really Jane? Haha! I have several Christian friends who say they aren’t religious and that Christianity is not a religion at all–claiming people who go to church etc. are not true Christians. I’ve had those same friends tell me I’m a Christian but doesn’t know it LOL! Well, I was raised a Catholic, but became a Taoist at age thirteen, and have since become a student of Zen (a philosophy not religion).
I think all churches should be taxed especially the big ones–it’s just like the freaking mafia!
#11 by Jane Doe at January 16th, 2009
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I have a few friends that follow Christ that wouldn’t be considered ‘true Christians’ by the mainstream church. They are much more spiritual than religious and dogmatic. I think they are the people that really have the spiritual aspect of what Christ taught. They don’t go to church and they don’t shove Jesus down the throat of everyone they meet like those in my old church did. They focus on loving and spreading kindness, not preaching dogma.
I enjoy reading about Zen, many of my spiritual books are of the Zen persuasion. I like that it avoids dogma and is, as you said, a philosophy, not a religion. I especially like that speaks of training the mind, as it is our mind that determines our reality. My family is Catholic but my parents never practiced or went to church when I was a child. They do now, and my children have decided to be Catholic as well, but my mother remains disappointed that I show no interest in her religion.
#12 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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@Jane: Yeah, when people adamantly force beliefs in my face, especially if they really believe in what they preach–I am naturally repelled by it. I’ve always been rebellious with everything. Take writing for instance. Most readers expect a story to have a beginning, middle and end and for the main climax to resolve. Most people want a happy ending. I freaking oppose the entire premise. In art, philosophy, religion, writing: whatever the majority does I eliminate from my repertoire in many ways to avoid all cliché; however, I keep what I like, rejecting the rest. And I seek not originality, but to carve away the unessential all which does not matter . . . perhaps I am insane haha! My parents never forced their religion on me and allowed me to question things and choose for myself. For that, I am truly thankful!
#13 by J.C. at January 16th, 2009
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Bobby, I think that the main problem lies in the fact that many people on Earth are not given the choice. One of my favorite journalists Johann Hari said that kids actually do not have any religion – only once when they are all grown-up people they could choose whatever political, religious, sexual option they would like to claim for themselves. What makes it hard is that there are many societies where this natural ability of people to choose for themselves is suppressed. A lot of people are being brainwashed from the earliest and not all of them seek for other ideas except the ones which were imposed on them. People take it for granted too many things that should not be taken for granted at all (like with the attitude that says “somebody else will do all the thinking part for me”.
#14 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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I agree J.C. I consider myself incredibly fortunate to have the parents I have and to be taught to think and explore. I live in the southern U.S. in the heart of the bible belt where racism flourishes. My parents taught me that all people are equal and they rejected the idea that white people are superior. Most of the people around here aren’t so lucky. Most of my relatives are disgusting racists and bigoted Christians–it can be difficult to love them at times.
It really saddens me to see children in some countries having no choices under the suppression of inept governments. I wish all children were taught to be free thinkers around the globe. One day, maybe they will be.
#15 by Miss Moneypenny at January 16th, 2009
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Helio- Bobby Scientia sol mentis!
On a national level, political and religious control appears to divide many people using religious faith.
If all religions worship the same Solar Sun in the sky then how did people become programmed by different religious dogma?
Perhaps, the key question is why don’t people question the evidence of their Faith since Faith is believing in something that cannot be proven.
For example, no one can claim they have evidence of 72 virgins in heaven waiting for them… the 72 virgins are used in esoteric Astrotheology and Solar Mythology to represent the Astronomical Precession of the Equinox as the SUN backs up 1 degree every 72 years in the Zodiac which is the unit that determines the Astrological Age.
The current Piscean Age of the Christian Solar Avatar, Jesus is 0AD to 2160AD (72 years times 30 degrees = 2,160 years).
Perhaps, someday the truth will set everyone free?
#16 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Hi Debbie! Ah yes, I know all about the precession of the Equinoxes and the astrological age. 72 virgins sounds like fun–do the women get 72 virgin men? I’ve always wondered about that. I’ve yet to date a virgin, if I find one over twenty-one years old who falls in love with me, I’ll hang on to her hahahaha!
#17 by Nina c. at January 16th, 2009
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Thanks for that post, I face things all the time as an African-American female. I just wish people would get over their prejudices and see people for people.
Great post!
#18 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Thanks Nina,
The way I see it is all people are originally from Africa (a fact) and somewhere down the line we are all brothers and sisters no matter what color our skin is.
#19 by Miss Moneypenny at January 16th, 2009
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Hi Bobby!
For women to receive 72 virgin men in heaven, someone needs to create a new false religion where a limp phallus is the object of worship to conceal the precession of male Erections!
#20 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Wow Debbie…you are so freaky! Sounds like a religion I shall refrain from following. I would prefer to worship the vagina LOL!!!
#21 by John D at January 16th, 2009
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Bobby – I love your total rebellion and resistance to the conventional – and I can see how that can get you in trouble. But it’s the kind of trouble I’d be proud to be in. – About racism, I’ve come to see how deeply ingrained it is in our minds and feelings and how easy it is for whites, or whoever comprises the dominant culture in a country, to be oblivious to the suffering that racism causes. Privilege does come to the dominant ones, even if it may seem they’re as pushed around as anyone. My experience left me unprepared for the election of Obama, for I thought the undercurrent of racism – even very unaware racism – would win out in the end. But things are changing, and the younger generations seem at last to be tossing aside the blind hate of racism. Let’s hope and pray.
Thanks for this great post. – John
#22 by Revellian at January 16th, 2009
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Hi John! A thought on rebellion (which is really the reason my site is named Revellian): I’m not rebellious for the sake of being unique, different or even rebellious. All my favorite artists, writers, scientists and so forth were all rebellious–I’m so attracted to that vibe. The French impressionistic painters were scoffed at, but in the end changed art altogether. Martial artist Bruce Lee rejected all the thousands of years of knowledge claiming most of it useless, keeping only what actually worked–and correct he was.
Yes…there is a new consciousness, Carl Sagan often talked about where people of all ages and races are becoming one generation–not separate.
Obama will be a much different president than most people expect. He will disappoint liberals in many ways (as well as conservatives) because he will be so painfully careful–careful to an extreme–every decision scrutinized beyond measure. Balancing this caution and actually getting things done will be his greatest problem. I sincerely hope he does well as we cannot afford another failure. The younger generation seems to reject assumptions of racism and prejudice against homosexuality, oppose war and etc. Some think this reflects the fall of Rome, others think it’s the change needed–we shall see. I even reject the notion of generation–if we are alive right now, we are of this generation–the generation of being alive. Thanks for your thoughtful comment!
#23 by Miss Moneypenny at January 17th, 2009
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I’m so freaky? The sacred Phallus has been worshipped in many cultures since 8,000 B.C. Japan still celebrates a penis religious festival every year!
Before people worshipped the SUN, some scholars believe the worship of the phallus to be at the origin of every religion, based upon the belief that the phallus is the image of the creator in mankind. If this is true then a limp phallus should be the religious requirement of 72 male virgins in heaven!
#24 by Revellian at January 17th, 2009
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I’m just teasing you Debbie (even though you are freaky)! Yes, the psychosexuality in religion is often ignored by practitioners. Imagine the bizarre, secretive sexual strangeness that occurred behind closed doors and left out of historical text during the Vatican’s stranglehold–during the Dark Ages and the Inquisition. Some of the earlier popes would make a porn star blush.
Yes…a a limp phallus makes sense for women receiving 72 male virgins in heaven. As I always say, heaven and hell are the same place–it’s all in how you perceive it
#25 by Miss Moneypenny at January 17th, 2009
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I know you’re teasing me… and I know, I can be as freaky as you, my friend!
#26 by Revellian at January 17th, 2009
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My next fiction story is so absolutely twisted, I am almost afraid to click the publish button. I am desensitizing my audience bit by bit until they just get used to increasingly horrific tales–until I reach the summit of sickness–the pinnacle of putridity LOL!!!
#27 by Kima at January 17th, 2009
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Hi Bobby, this is the reason why I like your blog. Because I know I am always welcomed
Regarding your point on segregation, well there is a reason to why minorities tend to favor groupism too, mainly because:
a) They are abused/despised and not welcomed by the majority community.
b) They feel insecure because of their differences, or the experiences that their “fellow people” had faced. Hence grouping with their kind gives them a feeling of security adn togetherness.
This is just my personal observation. I am a minority in my own country, with my race constituting about 1% of the Indian population. Yet I was educated outside my locality, so I was brought up in an environment that had none of the people from my own race. That is why it is easy for me to observe the people from my place and how they behave when they are with the rest of Indians.
Eventually in the end, it is how one looks at racism. If a person racially abuses you, do you consider him as just a jerk or do you assume all the people from that person’s particular race also have that same attitude about you? That is what makes a difference in the end, and the reason why we segregate or not.
Great post as usual Bobby.
#28 by Revellian at January 17th, 2009
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Hello Kima! From one perspective (in America as an example), the majority must reach out and join with all minorities to create a feeling of togetherness. From another vantage point, the minorities must do the same. We all know the answers, but acting is another story.
When white people display racism in my presence, I come down on them and let them know why they are wrong–it’s cost me many friendships as they didn’t expect me to oppose their view. I can rarely do that around people with a different nationality than me as they keep opinions to themselves–just like white people do. My opinions are public and I have nothing to hide, no agenda other than peace and harmony.
I wish I could be in your shoes to know what it’s like and what you’ve been through. Let’s all work for a better world. Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts!
#29 by Svasti at January 17th, 2009
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Great post Bobby.
I really think a lot of this is subconcious behaviour at best. Like tends to gravitate to like. And perhaps really, that’s what sits underneath all racist/sexist/bigotted actions and thoughts?
There’s so much fear out there, about just being human. About just being alive. Dealing with ‘perceived’ differences becomes challenging for some – especially visual differences because they’re more obvious.
But essentially, human beings crave unity. We’re built that way. So we do try to find some way to connect – but for most, how they do that is limited by social conditioning, their own fears and issues.
Its a tough one, and more than anything I feel people need each other’s empathy.
#30 by teeni at January 17th, 2009
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It is sad that you have to say this but better to have it out in the open than have someone afraid to visit/comment/enjoy the friendship.
It’s why I make it a point to say in my about page that all who are respectful and kind are welcome at my blog.
#31 by Revellian at January 18th, 2009
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@Svasti: Thank you,
Don’t you wish every person was raised and taught to be free thinkers–devoid of pre-programmed thought, rigid religiousness: to reject all social conditioning, able to discern truth from perceived truth and strive for personal enlightenment?
Though racism and separatism happen everyday, I remain fairly immune to it; meaning I let no one’s incorrect perceptions to rub off on me. I feel joyous and free, no matter what the world does or what happens to me. In the end I will die with a smile, bravely and without regret even if I die today.
Yes we do need each other’s empathy (wonderful that you said that). I also feel sympathy–sympathy for the racists, bigots, liars, murderers and those corrupted by money and all superficial things–I feel sorry for those poor people
@Teeni: I did feel a tinge of sadness at first in saying this, but now I feel happiness. I wish every place of business, restaurants, blogs, all human groups, gatherings and so forth all displayed such a banner–seeing it would make people feel at ease. Instead (in real life) we find out the truth after we arrive–and are sometimes left hurting. Here where I live, we have black or white restaurants; black or white bars and so forth–other places have a mixture. It’s ridiculous.
You know those places you see in movies where a black guy walks in a bar and the music stops, everyone stops drinking and stares at the unwelcome visitor? Those places are right here, and I refuse to go inside. We as individuals can stand above all that!
#32 by paisley at January 18th, 2009
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i , too, feel it is a shame we even have to have this discussion,, but i am also of the school of thought that if it wasn’t color or religion or weight or beauty,, it would just be something else… humans are very competitive self centered beings ad have a sick inborn need to feel better than… one of the very reasons i find it hard to believe in a deity…..
very well worded,, well thought out post bobby….
#33 by Revellian at January 18th, 2009
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Thanks Jodi,
My position in life is of individualism and that all meaning comes from within, not the world. I used to be more idealistic thinking people could achieve a “collective consciousness” and easily solve the world’s problems; unfortunately, that is called communism or fascism. All new ideas are really old, tired, already tried and antiquated. When we think something is a new good idea or way–it’s just new to us–and already old news lost in history.
I believe in life and living. The only correct philosophy is simplistic. All politics/philosophy is over-intellectualized thus rendering it ineffective and useless
#34 by Melissa Donovan at January 18th, 2009
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I have been fortunate enough to have had a few jobs where I worked closely with people from all over the world – all different races, religions, etc. and there really wasn’t much separation. I agree that it’s the norm to segregate but there are exceptions. Let’s just hope that in time, the exception becomes the rule.
#35 by Revellian at January 19th, 2009
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Hi Melissa!
That’s good! This job has people from a wide variety of cultures and religions, and at work everyone gets along great. It was only when we all went bowling (as per management’s request) that this situation arose. Division happened naturally, that’s what was scary.
#36 by Lulu at January 20th, 2009
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Love this post! I was born Indonesian, and I never choose to be an Indonesian. If only all people read your post, especially those who seem to befriend war more than peace ( sigh). Apart from the war things, I do think that people unconsciously set preference on whom they want to befriend. To me myself, I befriend anyone as long as they respect me as who I am, well that is just my opinion.
Thanks for the post Bobby! you’re the best.
#37 by Revellian at January 20th, 2009
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Thank you Lulu! I used to write quite a lot about this subject (and related ones), but I’ve really become so into fiction. I’m so lucky my parents taught me about equality. My best friends as a kid were two black boys, a Vietnamese boy and my first girlfriend was Thai (we were only six years old hahaha). I was raised in Europe and moved back to America when I was around 11. It was then I became aware of racism as I live in one of the most racist areas in the United States. What I love about blogging the most is befriending people from every country. I am so happy to have you as my friend!!!
#38 by Lulu at January 20th, 2009
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Hi Bobby! you are lucky to have experienced differences, felt those differences. Thanks to your parents too!:-). I am so happy to have you as my friend here as well Bobby! ( even I am 12 hours ahead!! hehe) have a great day.
#39 by Revellian at January 20th, 2009
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And we’re all lucky to be alive right now at this very minute! 12 hours ahead? You are up late…me too. I work mostly at night and sleep during the day. I only sleep around 6 hours per day…I am hyperactive
#40 by meleah rebeccah at January 21st, 2009
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We should celebrate being alive, being human beings–not what color our skin is, where we are from, our religion or lack thereof and everything else.
I could not have said that any better.
#41 by Revellian at January 21st, 2009
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Thanks Meleah,
all those things (race, religion, etc) must be left out of any and all arguments, politics and especially what a person feels in their private heart/mind