Comments on: The Human Urge To Criticize and Judge http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/ Thoughts and Fiction of Bobby Revell Thu, 20 Oct 2011 16:27:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Chaitanya Sagar, Excel Expert http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18938 Chaitanya Sagar, Excel Expert Wed, 15 Apr 2009 07:10:00 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18938 Hi Revell, That is in fact a very good article and especially the poem, I love it so much. It happens often in our life that we are much inclined to criticize somebody than praises him/her. None of us is exempted because this is part of human nature. Criticism is a bad habit because it not only solves nothing; it contributes to the anger and distrust in our world. When we judge or criticize another person, we are spreading negative energy causing the object of our criticism to react in fear or shame and much worse in anger and hostility towards us. What you wrote is absolutely correct and it reveals the fact of human nature. Hi Revell,
That is in fact a very good article and especially the poem, I love it so much.

It happens often in our life that we are much inclined to criticize somebody than praises him/her. None of us is exempted because this is part of human nature. Criticism is a bad habit because it not only solves nothing; it contributes to the anger and distrust in our world. When we judge or criticize another person, we are spreading negative energy causing the object of our criticism to react in fear or shame and much worse in anger and hostility towards us.

What you wrote is absolutely correct and it reveals the fact of human nature.

]]> By: Revellian http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18551 Revellian Wed, 01 Apr 2009 01:48:13 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18551 Hi Teeni! Sorry for the delayed response. In my opinion, King has nothing to complain about as he's sold so many books it's ridiculous. Meyer is like a pop musician (like Britney Spears), famous because maddened hordes of 10 year old girls buy her work. Honestly, I don't even read horror and will not try to write it because the market is so over-saturated with writers all trying to do the same thing. I'll stick to the transgressional genre as it fits my personality like a cold, wet glove. There's not much competition in my genre (mostly because it's not popular), but popularity is not what I'm going for. As far as I'm concerned, Meyer is awesome, and knows how to deliver to her audience. She knows her audience better than 99% of the writers out there, so I say hats off to her. :smile: Hi Teeni! Sorry for the delayed response. In my opinion, King has nothing to complain about as he’s sold so many books it’s ridiculous. Meyer is like a pop musician (like Britney Spears), famous because maddened hordes of 10 year old girls buy her work. Honestly, I don’t even read horror and will not try to write it because the market is so over-saturated with writers all trying to do the same thing. I’ll stick to the transgressional genre as it fits my personality like a cold, wet glove. There’s not much competition in my genre (mostly because it’s not popular), but popularity is not what I’m going for. As far as I’m concerned, Meyer is awesome, and knows how to deliver to her audience. She knows her audience better than 99% of the writers out there, so I say hats off to her. :smile:

]]> By: teeni http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18498 teeni Sun, 29 Mar 2009 05:59:49 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18498 I guess, Stephen King, like everyone, is entitled to his opinion. I think that Ms. Meyer writes just fine for her intended audience. And, to her credit she has been successful at it. Although I'm sure that her timing could not have been better when I notice that my teenaged nieces were all pretty interested in vampire romance novels right before her books came out. She may not technically be a great writer but she isn't as bad as some. And although I enjoyed many of Mr. King's novels, there are plenty that I found to be have long, drawn-out, boring sections to them and some just didn't interest me at all. So yeah, even good and great writers will have stories that are not good. And then there is personal taste, as you said. I think Mr. King voiced his opinion, but I think he could have been less scathing and rather than judge, he could just have said that he didn't prefer her writing. After all, everyone can decide for themselves what type of reading they want to do and I don't think she was cutting into his income in any manner. ;) I guess, Stephen King, like everyone, is entitled to his opinion. I think that Ms. Meyer writes just fine for her intended audience. And, to her credit she has been successful at it. Although I’m sure that her timing could not have been better when I notice that my teenaged nieces were all pretty interested in vampire romance novels right before her books came out. She may not technically be a great writer but she isn’t as bad as some. And although I enjoyed many of Mr. King’s novels, there are plenty that I found to be have long, drawn-out, boring sections to them and some just didn’t interest me at all. So yeah, even good and great writers will have stories that are not good. And then there is personal taste, as you said. I think Mr. King voiced his opinion, but I think he could have been less scathing and rather than judge, he could just have said that he didn’t prefer her writing. After all, everyone can decide for themselves what type of reading they want to do and I don’t think she was cutting into his income in any manner. ;)

]]> By: Revellian http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18132 Revellian Sun, 15 Mar 2009 18:53:50 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18132 I no longer use a mirror, I base my entire life on asking the opinions of others. You know, "Do I look OK?" Hahaha...that's good enough for me. Yeah, those mirrors can be evil sometimes :smile: I no longer use a mirror, I base my entire life on asking the opinions of others. You know, “Do I look OK?” Hahaha…that’s good enough for me. Yeah, those mirrors can be evil sometimes :smile:

]]> By: Evelyn http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18131 Evelyn Sun, 15 Mar 2009 18:47:48 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18131 I was going to make the comment that there are other reasons I hate my mirror too. ;) Can't help it. The older we get, the worse that mirror gets -- nasty piece of glass! LOL! I was going to make the comment that there are other reasons I hate my mirror too. ;) Can’t help it. The older we get, the worse that mirror gets — nasty piece of glass! LOL!

]]> By: Revellian http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18130 Revellian Sun, 15 Mar 2009 18:41:11 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18130 We're all guilty of this Evelyn, especially me. People are so quick to judge; I like this, I hate that, this sucks, this is great---and on and on. I watched two TV shows earlier: The 50 sexiest women and men and was like, who cares? To me, the sexiest women they proclaimed to be were based on fame. Why don't they celebrate ugliness or who is the fattest? With the world in financial ruin, it's hard to believe people still base their lives on useless opinions about irrelevant vanity hahaha! :mrgreen: We’re all guilty of this Evelyn, especially me. People are so quick to judge; I like this, I hate that, this sucks, this is great—and on and on.

I watched two TV shows earlier: The 50 sexiest women and men and was like, who cares? To me, the sexiest women they proclaimed to be were based on fame. Why don’t they celebrate ugliness or who is the fattest? With the world in financial ruin, it’s hard to believe people still base their lives on useless opinions about irrelevant vanity hahaha! :mrgreen:

]]> By: Evelyn http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18129 Evelyn Sun, 15 Mar 2009 17:47:16 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18129 Guilty of a lot of this. It's rare to find a human being that doesn't have some of these traits, at least once in a while. Unfortunately, some of us have all of them all too often. Sigh. But, we just keep trying. Trying to be non-judgmental is very difficult because we tend to do it without even realizing it. Is it human nature or is it a bad habit? I know some of us need to look in the mirror. I don't like my mirror sometimes. A lot of the time. :( Guilty of a lot of this. It’s rare to find a human being that doesn’t have some of these traits, at least once in a while. Unfortunately, some of us have all of them all too often. Sigh. But, we just keep trying.

Trying to be non-judgmental is very difficult because we tend to do it without even realizing it. Is it human nature or is it a bad habit? I know some of us need to look in the mirror. I don’t like my mirror sometimes. A lot of the time. :(

]]> By: Revellian http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18127 Revellian Sun, 15 Mar 2009 15:59:19 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18127 @Leah: I don't know, but I will think about it:) @Eren: So true! As long as we're guided by love and our intention is true---knowing when and how to handle things will be more wise. I really appreciate you coming here and sharing your thoughts. The love vs. selfishness is definitely the root of this entire discussion. Thanks for putting it into perspective for me :smile: @Leah: I don’t know, but I will think about it:)

@Eren: So true! As long as we’re guided by love and our intention is true—knowing when and how to handle things will be more wise. I really appreciate you coming here and sharing your thoughts. The love vs. selfishness is definitely the root of this entire discussion. Thanks for putting it into perspective for me :smile:

]]> By: Eren Mckay http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18126 Eren Mckay Sun, 15 Mar 2009 13:59:34 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18126 What you said is very true. Sometimes there is a need to be brutally honest. My best friend has serious depression and has tried to kill herself several times. I seem to intuitively know when brutal honesty will help her and when to stand back and not say anything because it would just stick her into a bigger whole and not help her one bit. It all boils down to true love. Love is always wanting the best for that other person. Sometimes the best means a wake up call and sometimes the best means empathy. What reeeeaaaallly irritates me is when people are "telling it like it is" with no love whatsoever. They have no love in their hearts. They are only saying things for selfish reasons. These are judgmental hypocrites. And frankly they make me nauseous. I cringe when I see people like this. It all boils down to intent. Is the intent love or selfishness? I can tell by the depths of your posts that you are an artist. That's why I love reading your posts. Blessings, Eren Mckay What you said is very true. Sometimes there is a need to be brutally honest.
My best friend has serious depression and has tried to kill herself several times. I seem to intuitively know when brutal honesty will help her and when to stand back and not say anything because it would just stick her into a bigger whole and not help her one bit.
It all boils down to true love.
Love is always wanting the best for that other person. Sometimes the best means a wake up call and sometimes the best means empathy.
What reeeeaaaallly irritates me is when people are “telling it like it is” with no love whatsoever. They have no love in their hearts. They are only saying things for selfish reasons.
These are judgmental hypocrites. And frankly they make me nauseous. I cringe when I see people like this.
It all boils down to intent. Is the intent love or selfishness?
I can tell by the depths of your posts that you are an artist.
That’s why I love reading your posts.
Blessings,
Eren Mckay

]]> By: celebicepop http://revellian.com/2009/03/12/the-human-urge-to-criticize-and-judge/comment-page-1/#comment-18118 celebicepop Sun, 15 Mar 2009 10:15:10 +0000 http://revellian.com/?p=2878#comment-18118 Hi, I noticed you are a talented writer and so I'd like to invite you to be a columnist blogger over at http://www.icepop.com. IcePop is a Community Blog where you can be a columnist and write about the latest Celebrity News and Film Reviews. You get Front page exposure, Your own bio, URL to your website, Profile picture and columnist banners! You can write as often or as little as you like, no stress! Great exposure for your own websites/blogs.Please pass by and take a peep. Thanks Leah aka http://www.creative-blogger.com. Hi, I noticed you are a talented writer and so I’d like to invite you to be a columnist blogger over at http://www.icepop.com. IcePop is a Community Blog where you can be a columnist and write about the latest Celebrity News and Film Reviews. You get Front page exposure, Your own bio, URL to your website, Profile picture and columnist banners! You can write as often or as little as you like, no stress! Great exposure for your own websites/blogs.Please pass by and take a peep. Thanks Leah aka http://www.creative-blogger.com.

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