I admit I’m so much happier now that I don’t really watch TV, keep up with the endless minutiae of every irrelevant incident occurring throughout every second of every day. Having said that, one of the most interesting phenomenons in modern society is the way people—especially Americans—transfer or transpose their own egos into the mirrored reality of famous stars, actors, politicians, sports stars, reality TV and a multitudinous cacophony of completely inconsequential blather and bullshit.
Hollywood Spawned Narcissistic Ego Disorder
People like stars because they see themselves in them. They feel part of them. Women swoon over famous men and men fantasize about sexy famous women. We want to to have sex with these people. We want to hang out with these people. We worry about them. We cry when they cry. We cry when they die. We scathingly critique them when they make us mad. We jerk off when they do a Playboy spread. Not only do we worship, look up to, grovel for, dream of and much more—we want to be them. Hollywood has become the mirrored ego in a majority of people’s lives.
And that is not only sad, it is sick. It’s a sociological disease driven by mass media entertainment. These are powerful, wide sweeping sociological phenomena that absorb people without them even knowing it. It is a self-generating entity unto itself.
People in American society are far too concerned with famous people, stars, musicians, awards, who died, etc. It is actually a sociological mass brain disorder
Dr. Drew Pinsky has a theory (the mirror effect) that most stars are predisposed to narcissistic personality disorder long before they become famous and that a majority of people in society use this as a mirror thus psychologically distorting and damaging their own minds using stars as “twisted mentors”. I’d go even further to say the entire landscape of the Internet, Twitter, Facebook, MySpace, blogging, etc. has changed the way people interact as a whole. Because of the way our lives and egos are mirrored by Hollywood narcissism, we are growing into a less intelligent, excessively greedy, superficial horde of human beings.

Your destroyed identity
When human beings begin to actually care what happens to a character on a TV show and then obsess over the actor paying the character, it is so bizarre I cannot help but look at them like science experiments gone awry.
The entire idea of friendship has become a shallow meaningless relationship whereby elimination of those we disagree with is but a click away—and this disturbing phenomenon overflows into our actual lives. Let me rephrase that: it doesn’t overflow, it is a tsunami of sickness.
All these concepts coincide with the modern plague and version of depression and drug addiction. The truth is, when we allow all this garbage (over-obsession with Hollywood, what other people do or say, etc) into our lives we lose “presence” in our own lives.
When it comes to judging celebrities and their behavior, it might be best to take a good look in the mirror
I know a young woman who didn’t go to her own mother’s funeral, but did travel 1500 miles to mourn over Michael Jackson’s death (and actually cried for three days over it). But the fact remains, she never actually knew nor was friends with Jackson in real life. That is scary my friends. What famous people do or say generally has no relevancy in yours, mine, or anyone’s lives. There’s nothing wrong with watching TV, listening to music, having a “star crush”, but when it becomes an obsession it becomes a serious medical disorder.
We need to choke down that Valium to sleep. We need that Prozac to cope. We need to take sides in political issues. We need to worry about why we aren’t more beautiful, skinnier, sexier, younger. Advertisers masterfully manipulate the public making women believe they need to be someone else to be wanted, loved or desired. Men are sold and actually buy billions of tablets of ExtenZe so their dicks will be longer and harder.
WHY?
Because there is something wrong with you and they want to sell you the cure. The most unbelievable aspect of all? You demand it. You demand to be sick. Keep obsessing on all those things in life that truly don’t matter and transferring your own ego into the matrix of meaningless bullshit—you’ll remain exactly where they want you to be.
Be yourself. Love yourself. Let go of all that which truly doesn’t matter and be filled with love and happiness. And most importantly, BE PRESENT in your own life and forget about what stars do. Learn the difference between loving yourself and narcissism.
Dramaturgical Perspective
What I’m really getting at is an actual sociological paradigm called dramaturgical perspective. This can be an effective way to explain a sociological disorder (affects an entire group of individuals, not just one person). Dramaurgical perspective theorizes that because of modern communication, we are no longer individuals or who we believe we are. Our identity is built on consensus (relationships between ourselves, others, societal groups, and how these elements blend as a whole). We aren’t really ourselves, we are in a sense playing ourselves or the created image of who we want to be like an actor. Social interaction has become dependent on this “consensus”.
People are living more and more aspects of their lives as a slave to socially molded conveyance or performance. It has become commonplace for people to become a caricature of themselves and live as a performing artist, based not on who they actually are, but on who society says they are. Some are aware of this and use it to manipulate others, but are still a sociologically produced psychological product . . . kinda like a living breathing human McDonald’s cheeseburger.
The symbiotic relationship of mirrored realities (Hollywood to masses and masses to Hollywood) are reflections of each other. Human beings become more fake than the fake actors they worship. And it all designs and builds a bizarre mass-sociologically separatist reality.
- We are born blank slates.
- We get a corrupted politically correct mass media influenced education.
- We then become less individualistic.
- We grow up and separate even further.
- We divide among religion, race, politics, class and every other type of separatist identification.
- We allow mass media entertainment and the 24 hour news cycle to turn us into superficial slaves.
I could go on an on about this stuff, but I’ll just say: take a step back from this sociological matrix and take a long look in the mirror. Are you really who you believe you are? Are you nothing more than a highly manipulated representation of a displayed performance you reveal to the world?
I didn’t watch the MTV music awards yesterday. but I did watch in sheer astonishment as the Kanye West sociological manipulation exploded across the web, Facebook and Twitter. The very idea that some guy on TV manipulated how you felt at the time and prompted you to voice your concern over this irrelevant triviality is incredible. The mass public was played like a violin. Ask yourself why and look in the mirror when you do it.
You might just have narcissistic personality disorder.



#1 by teeni at September 14th, 2009
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Hey Bobby! I see you must have vacuumed off that keyboard! LOL! Nice to see a post from you. Interesting subject over here today. Technology could be its own horror or thriller category I sometimes think. Its abuse sure scares me!
#2 by Bobby Revell at September 14th, 2009
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Hey Teeni! You were talking about writing a post yesterday so I decided to have a go at it. The reason I stopped blogging so much in the first place is because of this very subject. Real life is far more important than this fake one:)
#3 by Wall Clock Blog at September 14th, 2009
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Wow, great story man! I think Hollywood is affecting too many lives as well. Personally I don’t put famous people on a pedestal like a lot of people do. I guess everybody is different though.
#4 by Bobby Revell at September 15th, 2009
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Thanks, I try to not put anyone on a pedestal (unless she’s extremely good looking haha)
#5 by Evelyn at September 15th, 2009
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What?!? No blood, guts, or spare body parts?
RE: “The entire idea of friendship has become a shallow meaningless relationship whereby elimination of those we disagree with is but a click away—and this disturbing phenomenon overflows into our actual lives.”
Tapping fingers on the desk… speak for thyself! While I can see how this is entirely possible, and while I do agree and have witnessed some of the mass hysteria you speak of, it is not all-encompassing by any stretch. I worry about staying in contact with friends — online AND in real life. I’ve discovered how important this is.
I only obsess over writers who bounce back and forth between their fiction and the real worlds without blinking, get me sickly hooked, and then suddenly stop writing.
Hmmm… I just needed a kick in the pants to kick-start my blog again too! OMG, just yesterday in fact! Been quiet on the blog front since June 14th or so. I know! We ran away together and we just came home! Let’s start a rumor! LOL!
Will you stop obsessing over Society’s obsessions and go write me some smut to read already??? You sick degenerate, I miss that! I need a fix!
#6 by Bobby Revell at September 15th, 2009
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Hey Evelyn! I’ve been totally uninterested in blogging lately and I wrote this just for fun. I only obsess over women from Hawaii who love their home and enjoy highly disturbing fiction hahaha. I’d appreciate it if you would come by and pick up all the underwear you left in my closet and don’t you need your birth control pills? (they’re on my nightstand…still)
I’ve got the most shockingly sick smut ever written coming up soon (just for you)
#7 by Jennifer at September 15th, 2009
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You’re back!
I don’t watch television (though we have one), barely go to a movie, and am generally disconnected from pop culture. I think people get caught up in these things — sometimes — because it’s easier to be part of a fantasy world than to be connected to reality. And sometimes celebrities are a part of the past. Michael Jackson reminds a lot of people of a different (and now fuzzy with nostalgia) time in their lives. Not that this makes it all good, of course.
So, next — some fiction???
#8 by Bobby Revell at September 16th, 2009
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Hey Jennifer! Back? Am I? Hahaha I think TV is boring, but I do love studying how it and other aspects of society affect people and groups. Human behavior is so fascinating especially if it’s unusual or bizarre. Instead of watching entertainment, I watch the people who are being entertained.
Fiction? Yes indeed, got some coming up. I think it best for me to visit people for a few weeks and let them know I’m back before publishing some stories. It does feel good to actually reanimate my blog:)
#9 by EuroYank at September 20th, 2009
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Bobby am happy to see you are still scaring all the little boys and girls. Its also nice to know you can still get it up and put it out
#10 by Bobby Revell at September 20th, 2009
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Hey Euro! Blogging became so boring for me, I’m lucky to get out five articles per year haha. This is the stuff the average American never even considers
#11 by Miss Moneypenny at September 20th, 2009
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Hello Bobby Lichtenstein!
Sie können laufen, aber Sie können sich nicht von Obammunism verbergen. In Fräulein Moneypenny exklusiv hat, Debbie die Position Ihres Wellenbrecher-Loches entdeckt!:)
P.S. Sie schrieben einen Blog-Posten? Ich frage mich, ob mehr Menschen mit der Suspendierung von Hollywood des Unglaubens dann nicht gequält wurden, würden sie zur Wirklichkeit der u.n.constitutional Regierung von Obama wach sein?
#12 by Bobby Revell at September 23rd, 2009
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Hey Debbie! Sorry, I forgot I had a blog haha:)
For all these reasons, I don’t watch TV, and barely read the news besides a brief overview. Politics makes my stomach hurt and I just can’t think about it without getting all worked up. On another note, it is so wonderful to hear from you my dear friend!
#13 by Beatles Stereo Box Set at September 24th, 2009
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We are brainwashed from a young age through all these advertisements and whatnot, and lots of people lives are just so damn boring that they need to fantasize about being important through some common bond like a celebrity.
They attach so much emotional energy into the celebrities that their filter of the real world is distorted. Which is why i think some people that have never met someone like Michael Jackson and fly half way around the world to “show their respects”.
You remind me of Tyler Durden from Fight Club.
#14 by Lili at September 26th, 2009
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The mind tends to focus on whatever is sought out or whatever is placed in front of it.
So you know someone that didn’t go to their mother’s funeral but went to MJ’s funeral…Did that not tell you that something larger than a celebrity death was going on there? As to MJ maybe this person felt more at peace with the ideal and words of a being that comforted than by whatever horrors they might have experienced at home. It’s possible.
I live in Southern California and yes it is extremely distasteful but you know what you do? Turn off the tube,shut down the computer, turnoff the cell, and hike or walk a beach or state park. You can choose a great portion of what you absorb during your days and nights…just saying…
#15 by Anastasia at October 11th, 2009
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Hey Bobby, it’s great to see you’re back at your blog.
With the narcissistic aspects being present before a person hits stardom, oh yes definitely. I think there are probably a lot of psychological papers on the issues relating to consumerism and narcissism, and its effects on personality.
Your comment on the presence of narcissism as a trait for those seeking celebrity, is spot on and reminds me of my teenage years living with one foster family, whose daughter (and her friend) were obsessed with acting. Although they had the narcissistic quality (maybe because of the competition out there it’s difficult to decide on whether the trait is innate or a product of competition that exists in areas like entertainment and acting), they didn’t have the success, but still, they pursued drama and displayed the ugliness that related to judging others by appearance, material assets, and so on. It actually made me sick, and it took me a while to make the permanent break from that association at 19/20.
I have to admit I do watch TV, but I don’t watch reality TV. Lately, I’m in love with the show Drop Dead Diva, only because for once American TV networks have a show with a fuller figured lead actress with personality. I’m hoping that this small step will cause a few positive ripples.
#16 by Bobby Revell at October 13th, 2009
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Hey Ana! I think many people hardcore driven towards success, even if it’s a corporate job where money, prestige, image, and public relations are involved are mostly narcissistic too. There’s such a fine line between ego and true power, and very few with power understand it—they’re philosophically inept. My view is do art for the love of art, but in the real world it doesn’t really work that way. Thus I am torn on several issues in my own life.
I watch TV too, but I don’t see stars as gods like so many do, they’re just people like everyone else. I like actors that love their craft and tend to stay away from the Hollywood scene:)