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Revellian Revelations – Double Standards

One thing that’s been going on lately that I don’t like is that cash bloggers are using social networking to gain links and “make friends” at the same time. Just by saying that, some bloggers will get mad and not like me. See…the thing is, bloggers aren’t supposed to say bad things about other bloggers. Is it wrong? I want to share my “Revellian Revelations” with you.

If I said that blogger 1 is using people to make money and his so-called friendships are fake – mere social manipulation to make money, all his friends will say, “How dare you say that. Some people have nothing better to do than put others down to make themselves feel high and mighty!”

This will destroy friendships…even if it is true! If I started a site that judged others…I would be hated. If I handed out “Worst Blog On Earth” awards to famous bloggers, people would despise me. If I said, “This blogger is the most prolific liar and genius at social manipulation for self gain – the Hitler of blogging!” I would be shunned by all…even if it were true!

Double Standards

This defines the double standard in blogging, just as in life. If I did these things, I would be the scum of the blogosphere. However, If I made a million dollars doing it…I would be cool. I would be worshiped, with thousands of fans. I would get richer as I became more ruthless.

It’s like in real life, with famous movie stars. Johnny Depp was a heroin addict at one point in his life…this only adds to his mystique, increasing his marketability, especially with female fans. Normal people don’t have the same luxury! If Billy Joe from nowhereville, USA were an ex-heroin addict, what girl would find that sexy?

Imagine her telling mom, “Well mom…he doesn’t shoot up heroin any more!” It would be different if his name were Johnny Depp…wouldn’t it? One of the most ruthless mass murderers in history is Alexander the Great. Because he was successful…he is looked up to by people worldwide! Hitler was not successful…therefore he is hated by all people.

The difference between an insane murderer and a beloved leader is measured by success…particularly by monetary success. If there was ever a person that should be called an “anti-christ”…it is Alexander the Great. However, great leaders all throughout history look up to him as the greatest. The truth is, Alexander made Hitler look like a punk by comparison!

Take for example, the actor Colin Farrell. He has herpes (according to Halle Berry). Do you know how many women he has given herpes to? He sleeps with girl after girl…leaving them behind as soon as he pulls his pants up…yet this makes him a sexy bad boy…hahahaha!!!!

If I become a famous rock star, I want to infect myself with hepatitis-C from Pamela Anderson just like Tommy Lee and Kid Rock. Imagine how disgusting these people are! The baddest bad boy finally bedding the sluttiest slut!!!! This is what the world considers to be news…OMG…I think I’m going to puke.

How Do You Measure Success?

Is success measured only by money or fame? What do you think? How does this double standard play out among bloggers? I am just making some observations about things. I don’t have anything against Johnny Depp, in case you were wondering.

Some bloggers make money through PPP and Smorty while being a real friend with other bloggers. Personally, I see a big difference between bloggers like this, than true money bloggers using social networking to use people for their friendships. Do you see the same difference?

Most of my blogger buddies make some extra money but they are true friends and I respect that. However, I do not respect these bloggers who are on the verge of being huge…who join every social network to further their quest for financial gain.

It’s just like the example of famous people I used earlier. Once you become famous, you get famous friends. Many will leave their old friends behind. We often see bloggers who become big do the same thing. That’s why I don’t want to be big. Big money changes many people in bad ways.

That’s not to say money and success cannot be handled with true integrity. Many rich people are super nice, caring human beings. Therefore…my goal in life is to remain my true self regardless of what happens or doesn’t happen. To me…success is not something I choose to measure. Who am I to measure the success of someone else. Success is different for different people!!!!

Goals For 2008

My goals for this new year are simple, as placing unrealistic expectations on myself are not healthy. I want to nurture the wonderful friendships I have. I want to be there for any of you that ever need a friend. Also, I want to remove all resentments in my life, especially those directed towards my deceased father.

It’s not my job to judge others, other people can do that. Judging people, sizing people up and holding grudges is bad. These are some of the things I will strive for in 2008!!!!!

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The Blogging For Friendship Writing Project

A Project To Promote Our Community

This project was born out of necessity. I am fully against Google and their page rank system. I believe it is the people that count, not Google. I use Yahoo for all of my searches now and I will ask all of you to do the same thing (any search engine but Google). This project is to promote blogging friendships and the betterment of humanity.

My site is considered completely irrelevant by them. Is what I write irrelevant? Be warned that answers.com also uses Google. I am done with Google. I will keep my Gmail account and that�s it. I will publish a post listing all the posts on Saturday, October 27th.

The rules are simple. Write a post promoting goodness and friendship in the blogosphere. If some of you have any ideas on how or why Google should be boycotted, by all means, please do so. Keep in mind this isn�t about hating Google, it�s about solutions and friendships.

Once you are done, leave me a comment with the url of your post. Be creative and show your love! I am tagging a lot of you! Feel free to double tag the same people. That�ll make it even better. You don�t have to tag anyone if you don�t want to. Write something positive for our friendship and the betterment of humanity. Don�t do it for me, do it for everyone! Here�s my contribution:

Why I Love My Blogging Friends

I was going to write a post full of little stories about each of my blogging friends. Inevitably, the post would be 30 pages and someone would be left out. I have written a more general post to avoid length. I will be dedicating individual posts to and about all my friends regularly in upcoming articles.

Blogging to me is about sharing and caring. The incredible people I have met are some of the the finest people I have ever known. I have three new friends that have touched my heart so much this week, I have to mention them. All of you have touched my heart! I am already feeling guilty for not mentioning hundreds of you :cry:

My friend Rolando from RPlayground has been so heavily influential on me I am without words. He inspires me to be a better human being. My friend Jamilla from What I Feel, I Just Blog It is so giving to everyone she meets it is truly heartwarming. She�s a shining star! My friend Opal Tribble|Vegan Momma is a great woman who just lights up the blogosphere with her kindness!

If you don�t know these people, go meet them! The visit will leave you filled with warmth and happiness.

The people who are changing the face of blogging are super friendly, kind and caring! WOW! I am so excited right now it is amazing. We are helping make the world a better place. It�s happening right now. I�m going for a new niche because it is now the time. Blogging Ethics|Blogging Friendships!

My first good friend on line was Adria from the blog InCinq. I didn�t really have any friends when I met her. She just stepped into my world and changed my entire view of blogging. She is a great, talented blogger who is definetly worth knowing! Thanks Adria! If it weren�t for you, I wouldn�t be blogging.

The next person I became friends with is Marzie (Genie Princess) from Mariuca: Wishing on a Falling Star. Marzie is very giving and has been so good to me. She taught me how to comment and I look up to her for being so nice to everyone! Again, I wouldn�t be blogging if it weren�t for her! These two women are some of the web�s finest!!!!!

Alright, I wasn�t going to write about these people originally but it is just coming out this way.

The Nafasg team are the finest group of people running one blog on the entire Internet. I cannot say enough good things about them! If you visit them, they will not disappoint you! They are helping lead the charge for helping humanity! We are all helping in our own way.

I have decided to not take this blog in a financial direction. The truth is, it doesn�t fit. It doesn�t feel right. Maybe I will start a money blog but it will not be this one. I am officially giving up on Google. I�m here for my friends. It�s all that matters to me. Blogging isn�t about money. it�s about community.

It�s time to get serious about Global change for the betterment of humanity. NOTHING is more important than that. I don�t care about money. I cannot care about a piece of paper. If you do, get some help. We need money but should not care about it. You care about people and kittens, not money!

There are over 100 million bloggers. We should support each other and make a group effort to spread love, not war. We can complain about the World�s issues but it won�t help. Instead of writing a 1000 posts about why George Bush should be impeached, promote positivity instead.

This blog promotes goodness. I try to avoid pointing out problems.

We Are One People

Instead of writing about how different we are, I am about how similar we are. It’s great to be proud of your heritage. What I am telling you is that I am proud to be a human being from the planet Earth. Being a white guy from the United States gives me a responsibility. I am part of the majority here. That’s why I support all races.

I’ll say it like this:

There are hardly any white Americans supporting the minorities here. That’s a big problem. I hear white people complaining about how there are too many immigrants. WE ARE ALL IMMIGRANTS FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!!!!!!!! This is America. We are the melting pot. It makes me sick that people think they are special or better than others.

Who’s fault is it that minority based neighborhoods have high crime rates? It is the white Americans who display the disease of racism. We are not making everyone feel welcome here! They are welcome here. I stand here and proudly say I love all people from all races and religions. We are all equals.

If you think I’m wrong, please get some help. Make some friends with a blog. You will find how much alike all of us are. Before blogging, I was missing out on so many things. We are all here together. This blogging platform is such a powerful medium of communication it is unbeliveable.

Who would have ever dreamed how much of an impact blogging would have? It is simply awesome. I stand as one person with all of you. We are in this thing together. Let us all stand together, regardless of where were from. Let’s join as one race. We are the human race!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m not feeling very well right now and I have to cut this article much shorter than I want to. There are lots of my friends not listed. I love each and everyone of you. I think I may have the flu so I will get some rest. I always feel guilty for not writing a hundred page post about all of you’I will be dedicating posts to all of you coming up.

I am asking the following people to participate in this project. There are really no rules. Do what you want. It’s about the community as a whole and all the wonderful individual people in it. Thank you all for being my friends. The following list of great people are all great bloggers whom I will support until my last breath :razz:

What can we do to change the world? Why are your blogging friends important to you? How can bloggers help to prevent wars? These are just a few questions to consider when writing. Try not to write a super long post. Bloggers tend to like shorter more concise articles. If you do want to write a 200 page thesis, go ahead! I will read it but I can’t promise you that every one will.

I didn’t want a linked badge when starting this project. My friends Nafasg made a nice badge but it only linked to them. In lieu of these cicumstances, I felt terrible telling them that I couldn’t use it. I buckled down and a little html to fix everything! Thanks Nafa! Here’s to humanity! Trinity also made one! ThanksTrinity!

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Revellian is Three Months Old!

Revellian.com is now 3 months old! I had some very bad experiences last week and I seriously considered quitting blogging altogether. Many people may not understand why I wanted to, but it was a very bad week. About four days ago I went to just look at my blog and it wouldn’t come up. I checked with my host and they were baffled that even they couldn’t log in! I then tried to restore my backups and sadly they were all damaged and filled with garbled text. It was then I felt horrible that I had considered quitting. I faced the possibility that even if I changed my mind, my blog was gone.

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